He is a mystery for me. Please help solving it.

[Fluffy Girl]

[poster gave no astrological interpretation so moved to Greenhorns Lounge - Moderator]

[waybread]

When a man acts as you've described, I have to think a bunch of things are going on besides the astrology, but just briefly:

1. He has Mars (in a man's chart, his masculinity) conjunct his sun [identity] and square Uranus. Uranus can be quite the "bad boy" because it challenges the status quo. To conventional people, a Uranian person can seem unusual or unpredictable. So I would read this configuration as someone who identifies with expressing his sexuality in unconventional ways. And with the square there, this can be a feeling of constant pressure. Afflictions between Mars and Uranus can also indicate someone with difficulty in controlling his anger.

2. His sun/Mars are making happy aspects to Pluto and Venus. Venus symbolizes the kind of woman who appeals to him. But in the 12th house, he may be very unaware of why he responds to women in such promiscuous ways. A tight Pluto Venus square can make someone pretty obsessive about women. Interestingly, Venus also symbolizes money in a chart. The ruler of his "money house" is Uranus, which takes us back to point 1, above. So money would seem to be another obsession.

3. With Neptune, north node/Saturn and Mercury involved in a wide T-square, he may actually have a lot of insecurities and self-esteem problems, such that being a Lady's Man is one way in which he seeks to boost his ego.

4. You actually appear to have very good synastry with this man, however! So I can understand why you both feel a connection. But given the problems you've described, I think you might throw this particular Fish back into the sea. You deserve someone who also matches your chart well, but is mature and responsible.

[astrologer50]

I would have a look at the T Square aspects. It's not really good to have any planet in 12th, the house of self unding if you like. To have venus and moon there suggests secret affairs. then looking at Mercury square Neptune is deceptive communications, either inadvertently or deliberate


Mercury square or opposition Neptune
Your mind is full of fantasies and illusions. It is hard for you to be objective and concrete with your ideas and you tend to be disorderly and lose concentration on your studies. Your extreme sensitivity may lead you to retreat to your fantasy world when you feel disappointed or hurt. Because of your creative and imaginative mind, you can excel in artistic achievements where you will communicate your ideas more easily. If you have grown up in a stable and harmonious home you will avoid your escapist tendency.
Alternate interpretation: Your mind is highly imaginative and creative and you possess dramatic, artistic, or musical abilities. As a child, you enjoyed daydreaming, fantasizing, pretending, and probably lived in "your own little world" a good deal. You perceive things which are not obvious to other people and you have an uncanny ability to "read" people and situations without being told anything about them. However, you must learn to discriminate between a true psychic perception and your imagination. Learning to discipline and focus your mind is necessary if you wish to use all of your creative potential. Otherwise, you could be simply a dreamer.

Communication with others is difficult for you because you often find words frustrating and inadequate to express your experiences and perceptions. Also, you may purposefully mystify or deceive others.
http://www.cafeastrology.com/natal/m...neaspects.html

Neptune square saturn = fear of unknown and can be depressive and so can mercury opp saturn...

YOu asked about Chiron aspects.
http://www.cafeastrology.com/article...ninhouses.html
http://www.cafeastrology.com/article...onaspects.html
http://www.cafeastrology.com/article...nthesigns.html

I'm a modern astrologer that uses Equal house system and you have used the default of Placidus on astro.....

Lots of people that come into Astrology get their free charts calculated at www.astro.com and the default ‘house system’ used is Placidus and think that’s just the norm and all that there is……..BUT that is just the tip of the iceberg. You can change the default on astro.com in Extended Chart selection to Equal house and a few more.

Throughout the forums but mainly in natal astrology there are two main branches Placidus (unequal size houses) v Equal House (whereby each house is same size) but lots more……. For more information on these go here.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/House_(astrology)#Description
http://www.astrolozy.com/article19.asp

Therefore, Pluto is in the 10th house suggesting one parent was possibly absent or extremely controlling, demanding, obsessive in some way.
His moon conj Neptune suggests he has had and will have emotional disillusionment with relationships, but some peope enjoy the ride or the 'rose tinted glasses'

[R4VEN]

Fluffy Girl - what a fated relationship this has been for you....

For me, I'm interested in your natal neptune in the 7th, and the fact that the tendency to attract weirdos and users of all kinds can be transcended!!.......
but I'm also interested in your relationships between Venus and Pluto...

Your Venus is trine Pluto, which leads you to believe in love, and to even love to be in love!!!! I noticed the wording of your opening sentence in your 1st post:
This guy has been after me and I also fell in love with him
That was a major warning sign to me. Love is not a feeling, it's behaviour, and to `fall in love' is to lose something of yourself. I'll leave you with that thought.......

The guy you've been involved with has Venus and Pluto squared and this for me is a No Go Zone. Read this quote from cafeastrology re Venus square Pluto:

" You are capable of being a great manipulator and are often caught up trying to make things appear a certain way. You are the one who suffers from this tendency the most. You tend to get tied down to a pattern of endless repetition in relationships. You have difficulty in letting go even when a situation is painful. You are always dealing with people as symbols of others who are not even present. Love and power become confused with one another. You have a deeply lodged need to establish your sense of self worth"

Does this sound familiar to you?

I'm more interested in your Chiron conjunction with Mars. This is the placement of someone who has a need to learn the Sacred Warrior archetype, and relationships such as the one you've become entangled in are like a training ground for developing this inner warrior strength. I know of 2 women with this placement of Chiron; one is in her mid-late 30's and no-one has ever messed with her!!!; the other is in her early 20's, and like you she gets embroiled in relationships which are not in her best interest - but she believes in that `feeling' of being in love, and it leads her down the garden path every time!! She picks real losers mostly. However, her real test to her warrior strength is with her parents, as they won't allow her to grow up, and they constantly interfere in her life - for reasons of their own.

Sorry to have rambled. I tend to do that.

PS: and getting a grip on your T-Square is fundamental to self-understanding, I feel.

[Fluffy Girl]

Originally Posted by R4VEN

Fluffy Girl - what a fated relationship this has been for you....

For me, I'm interested in your natal neptune in the 7th, and the fact that the tendency to attract weirdos and users of all kinds can be transcended!!.......

Raven, Have you seen any other chart of a female who has neptune in the 7th house? I know they tend to idealize the situation but i mean do such ppl always fail in marraige ? People have been tellign me that i will not have a succesful marriage. what do u have to say about it?

but I'm also interested in your relationships between Venus and Pluto...

Your Venus is trine Pluto, which leads you to believe in love, and to even love to be in love!!!! I noticed the wording of your opening sentence in your 1st post:
This guy has been after me and I also fell in love with him
That was a major warning sign to me. Love is not a feeling, it's behaviour, and to `fall in love' is to lose something of yourself. I'll leave you with that thought.......

You are right, I am very passionate when I’m in love but it’s amusing that unlike others I have a good control on myself. I just do not run into others lives because I know my limits. In the last relationship my eX bf (who is still not willing to be called as an eX) actually ran over me for unknown reasons. I really love to be in a love relationship. Yes I am possessive but to a certain limit. Now I’m pretty much mature to take any love association. Are you seeing any new affair coming my way? When will I get married?

The guy you've been involved with has Venus and Pluto squared and this for me is a No Go Zone. Read this quote from cafeastrology re Venus square Pluto:

Yes it scares me too.... but i felt a great chemistry with him.

I'm more interested in your Chiron conjunction with Mars. This is the placement of someone who has a need to learn the Sacred Warrior archetype, and relationships such as the one you've become entangled in are like a training ground for developing this inner warrior strength. I know of 2 women with this placement of Chiron; one is in her mid-late 30's and no-one has ever messed with her!!!; the other is in her early 20's, and like you she gets embroiled in relationships which are not in her best interest - but she believes in that `feeling' of being in love, and it leads her down the garden path every time!! She picks real losers mostly. However, her real test to her warrior strength is with her parents, as they won't allow her to grow up, and they constantly interfere in her life - for reasons of their own.

Sorry to have rambled. I tend to do that.

PS: and getting a grip on your T-Square is fundamental to self-understanding, I feel.

Well, my chiron conjunt mars, I dont know much about chiron. Astrologer60 has provided me a few links about it. I wish if i could know that how astrologers match the charts. I have heard that if your chiron has any aspects with other persons planets then you feel attraction with them. If you have any material or knowledge regarding it. Please let me know. Thank you.

[astrologer50]

If you go to www.astro.com click on free horoscopes, go to Interactive horoscopes, go down to astroclick partner, that will bring up a composite chart, that when you put the mouse over a planet will bring up a pop up box interpretation......

But you do need both times of birth to be accurate though.. enjoy.

Composites describe the relationship, not either one of you, but what you came together to learn or to do and how the 'pair of you' function when together....

[R4VEN]

Originally Posted by Fluffy Girl

Raven, Have you seen any other chart of a female who has neptune in the 7th house? I know they tend to idealize the situation but i mean do such ppl always fail in marraige ? People have been tellign me that i will not have a succesful marriage. what do u have to say about it?

Yes, off the cuff I know a young woman - who is now about 25 - who has Neptune in 7th. her first serious relationship was with a man in a wheelchair. No sex in that relationship, but she was head-over-heels and very dependent upon his wisdom. She then got into a couple of quite obsessive relationships with men who treated her very badly, and one even raped her. She recently met a beautiful guy with whom she had a brief relationship - but good - and this restored her faith in her own ability to attract decent men.

Whether you have a successful marriage or not is up to you. These things are not fated by your astrology chart. You still have free will as to what you do with what is on your chart. For instance, in taking Neptune in the 7th - it's a tough placement, because you tend to attract people who use you, or who are not as they say they are. The lesson here is to learn to be more discriminating in who you allow close to you, and to look after yourself at all times. Neptune in the 7th is a lesson, and not a fated destiny. Your whole chart is like that. My advice to you would be to do what most of us here on this board have done, and to read and learn about what your chart means. This is time-consuming, but it is definitely worth it.

[Fluffy Girl]

Originally Posted by R4VEN

Fluffy Girl - what a fated relationship this has been for you....

For me, I'm interested in your natal neptune in the 7th, and the fact that the tendency to attract weirdos and users of all kinds can be transcended!!.......
but I'm also interested in your relationships between Venus and Pluto...

Your Venus is trine Pluto, which leads you to believe in love, and to even love to be in love!!!! I noticed the wording of your opening sentence in your 1st post:
This guy has been after me and I also fell in love with him
That was a major warning sign to me. Love is not a feeling, it's behaviour, and to `fall in love' is to lose something of yourself. I'll leave you with that thought.......

The guy you've been involved with has Venus and Pluto squared and this for me is a No Go Zone. Read this quote from cafeastrology re Venus square Pluto:

" You are capable of being a great manipulator and are often caught up trying to make things appear a certain way. You are the one who suffers from this tendency the most. You tend to get tied down to a pattern of endless repetition in relationships. You have difficulty in letting go even when a situation is painful. You are always dealing with people as symbols of others who are not even present. Love and power become confused with one another. You have a deeply lodged need to establish your sense of self worth"

Does this sound familiar to you?

I'm more interested in your Chiron conjunction with Mars. This is the placement of someone who has a need to learn the Sacred Warrior archetype, and relationships such as the one you've become entangled in are like a training ground for developing this inner warrior strength. I know of 2 women with this placement of Chiron; one is in her mid-late 30's and no-one has ever messed with her!!!; the other is in her early 20's, and like you she gets embroiled in relationships which are not in her best interest - but she believes in that `feeling' of being in love, and it leads her down the garden path every time!! She picks real losers mostly. However, her real test to her warrior strength is with her parents, as they won't allow her to grow up, and they constantly interfere in her life - for reasons of their own.

Sorry to have rambled. I tend to do that.

PS: and getting a grip on your T-Square is fundamental to self-understanding, I feel.

Raven, as a beginner, I have tried to read the basics of astrology and found an interesting fact about neptune in my natal chart. Its about 5 degree orb of influence that precedes the cusp of the houses. Hence the DC is at 24 degree and neptune falls on 28 degree. Will i consider my neptune to be in the 6th house. I mean it will have influence upton the affairs of the 6th and not the 7th.


I may be wrong on this. Otherwise the 7th house cusp is Sag and neptune is falling in the 5 degree orb of sag. So i will consider it in the 7th House. The Sixth House Cusp is connected with Scorpio.


In the Second case, my sun will be considered in the 12th House, not in the 11th house.The reason behind is that it falls in the 5 degree orb of 12th house cusp taurus. (please look at my chart for the ref which is attached in begining).


Anyone can please guide me through my observation?

[astrologer50]

Again, fluffygirl unfortunately there is no substitute for study in Equal house system each cusp is the same as Asc and you sun sign is placed in 11th house as far as I am concerned.....

Your natal chart is like a photograph, a still on the date, time and latitude and longitude of where you were born. The planets move through the signs and houses in an anti clockwise fashion, SO your Neptune is indeed well inside the 7th house and should have no bearing on 6th

When looking at Uranus and Jupiter in 6th house Uranus may well affect your nearves healthwise. Strange and advanced methods used in work and service. You could be interested in all kinds of healing therapy. The type of work electronics etc. You prefer to work in the ­background without supervision and like a congenial atmosphere. Collect odd and unusual things(pigs, owls etc.) Sudden illnesses. Possible work in health service or machinery to do with health

Wherever Neptune is in a chart is where we hold regrets,make sacrifices, but do this willingly, cos otherwise it would become martyrdom. T Neptune we usually have 'give something up'

below is http://cafeastrology.com/articles/neptuneinhouses.html
You often have very naive, idealistic, or overly romantic attitudes toward people, and it's difficult for you to see others realistically. You may prefer to keep your relationships on an idealistic or platonic level, so that you don't have to deal with the more prosaic, earthy, human aspects of relating.

Thoroughly investigate potential marriage or business partners, as your gullibility and desire to see only the best in people may blind you to the truth about others with whom you form a close alliance.

[R4VEN]

Originally Posted by Fluffy Girl

Raven, as a beginner, I have tried to read the basics of astrology and found an interesting fact about neptune in my natal chart. Its about 5 degree orb of influence that precedes the cusp of the houses. Hence the DC is at 24 degree and neptune falls on 28 degree. Will i consider my neptune to be in the 6th house. I mean it will have influence upton the affairs of the 6th and not the 7th.


I may be wrong on this. Otherwise the 7th house cusp is Sag and neptune is falling in the 5 degree orb of sag. So i will consider it in the 7th House. The Sixth House Cusp is connected with Scorpio.


In the Second case, my sun will be considered in the 12th House, not in the 11th house.The reason behind is that it falls in the 5 degree orb of 12th house cusp taurus. (please look at my chart for the ref which is attached in begining).


Anyone can please guide me through my observation?

I think I know what it is you're asking.

In the first case you have Neptune conj your 7th house cusp. This means neptune is in the 7th, and although your 7th house is ruled by Jupiter - as you have Sagittarius on the 7th house cusp, and so Jupiter being in the 6th house is where the 7th has a link to the 6th (sorry if that is confusing - I am confused!) What this means in real terms is that you have great optimism re your personal one-to-one r/ships - this is how a Sagittarius 7th house cusp works. When you meet someone and are attracted to them you see them as wonderful, even though Neptune's presence in this house may in fact cloud your judgement about people. Neptune is in the 7th house, close to the 7th house cusp, and will not act `backwards' to influence the 6th.

Your Sun, on the other hand is in the 11th, so it is considered to be an 11th house sun in Taurus. But it forms a close conjunction with the 12th house cusp, so it will have some influence over the affairs of the 12th.
Note that this is not the case with Neptune and the 6th house. This is because influence in a close orb works in relation to the direction in which the planets move, which is clockwise.

[Fluffy Girl]

Originally Posted by astrologer50

I would have a look at the T Square aspects. It's not really good to have any planet in 12th, the house of self unding if you like. To have venus and moon there suggests secret affairs.

Thank you for replying astrologer50. I am really learning by the community members. About Venus in 12th house, you may notice that his venus is at the end of 12th House. We may consider it in the 1st house. Does that nulify the effect of secret affairs ?

then looking at Mercury square Neptune is deceptive communications, either inadvertently or deliberate

Is my mercury making square with neptune? I am unable to see that in my chart. please guide me.


I am reading the links you have provided for chiron. My chiron conjunts with mars... It seems pretty dangerous.. wat are your views.

Now i realize his situation after studying moon conj with neptune.

[astrologer50]

Originally Posted by Fluffy Girl

Thank you for replying astrologer50. I am really learning by the community members. About Venus in 12th house, you may notice that his venus is at the end of 12th House. We may consider it in the 1st house. Does that nulify the effect of secret affairs ?

Well it ALL depends on how accurate his time of birth is?? Personally it does have a say in 12th house matters, but 'more' say in 1st ie; appearance, would like to dress and present himself nicely, have very pleasing 'venusian' manner

Is my mercury making square with neptune? I am unable to see that in my chart. please guide me. NO all my coments were directed at the male, not you

I am reading the links you have provided for chiron. My chiron conjunts with mars... It seems pretty dangerous.. wat are your views.
Chiron and Mars
The difficulties here involve aggression and assertiveness. People with these aspects could be ultra aggressive as a cover for feelings of inadequacy, or, conversely, behave passively to conceal inner rage and hostility. To resolve Chiron/Mars problems, the trick is to find a balance point between the two (shades of Libra, the sign opposite Mars-ruled Aries). This is a perfect position for a coach who can teach (Chiron) others how to perform athletic feats that they themselves could never do.
http://www.cafeastrology.com/article...onaspects.html


Now i realize his situation after studying moon conj with neptune.

Looking at your chart now, your mercury is quincunxed Saturn

Putting your life in order will require exercising positive judgment as to how to get the large projects you envision to manifest. The sheer scope of your goals in life can require more effort than is immediately obvious. Hard work can take its toll on your health. Correct partitioning of big ideas into segments that are achievable one at a time and exacting uses of your time is the way to move forward while maintaining inner poise and outer health.

http://www.cafeastrology.com/natal/q...retations.html

Your mercury is actually in the 11th house in EQual House system and just mars in 12th house. This mars suggests a suppression of your energies in childhood....

OR Robert Hand's version
MERCURY INCONJUNCT SATURN
Mercury inconjunct Saturn shows that you are responsible and serious, but you emphasise these qualities too much, which can make things difficult. Overestimating what people really expect form you, you go to great lengths in their service. In your desire to gain approval from others, you indulge them to the point that they may become annoyed with you. Your willingness to be the "patsy" for their failings encourages people to lose respect for you. Stop being the willing victim of those who will take all you can give, even if you become mentally exhausted in the process. You seem to have all the symptoms of a confirmed masochist, and this brings out latent sadistic qualities in others.

You will make progress as soon as you stop crucifying yourself for people who are too incompetent to help themselves. Turn your talents to such endeavours as architecture, drafting, engineering, research, science, welfare programs in the service of gov­ernment, education, teaching, or physical therapy. In these fields you will be able to see rewarding evidence of your efforts. You will still be doing something for others, but you will be free from the harassment that sometimes occurs in personal contact.

Try to establish priorities in your life. Do these things that you know must be done before doing anything that other people suggest. Learn to say no when asked to donate your time and efforts; you can say that your current obligations do not permit it. In other words, get people off your back, or it will be bowed under the burden. For the most part such efforts are a useless investment anyway.

Do not look back, because you may be disappointed that you have not yet achieved your objectives. Make a firm resolve to indulge yourself more than you have, but do not indulge in self‑pity. Learn from the past and turn over a new leaf.

You should take a good, hard, honest look at yourself. You may not realise that you are talented. Try to detach yourself from the opinions of others and concern yourself with developing your potentials. In the privacy of your own home, try your hand at some crafty activity; you will find out how skilled you are. You should also realise that you do not have to be in the shadow of others. At the same time, avoid criticising people for hurting you; they could not have done it without your permission. If you have been hurt, it was probably necessary. This may dramatise the fact that you do not have to win anyone's approval, but you certainly need to confirm your own competence.

[waybread]

Fluffy, setting aside the astrology for a moment, if you know this man has an obsessive personality, was after your money, cheated on you with other women, "is a kind of sexual criminal", and then has been threatening you to the point where you have gone to the police--the time to get him out of your life is right now. A judge can give you a restraining order against him. If he has been stalking or harassing you, it is crucial that you look after your own personal safety.

In synastry (comparing two charts) the first things I look for are conjunctions or harmonious aspects (sextiles or trines) between the couple's suns, their moons, and then a "reverse" Venus/Mars relationship. I. e., a womans Venus aspects the man's Mars, and vice versa.

The problem is that it is possible to have super synastry with someone who is no good for you. It is also possible to get him out of your life, and to find someone else with good synastry who is good for you.

[Fluffy Girl]

Originally Posted by waybread

Fluffy, setting aside the astrology for a moment, if you know this man has an obsessive personality, was after your money, cheated on you with other women, "is a kind of sexual criminal", and then has been threatening you to the point where you have gone to the police--the time to get him out of your life is right now. A judge can give you a restraining order against him. If he has been stalking or harassing you, it is crucial that you look after your own personal safety.

In synastry (comparing two charts) the first things I look for are conjunctions or harmonious aspects (sextiles or trines) between the couple's suns, their moons, and then a "reverse" Venus/Mars relationship. I. e., a womans Venus aspects the man's Mars, and vice versa.

The problem is that it is possible to have super synastry with someone who is no good for you. It is also possible to get him out of your life, and to find someone else with good synastry who is good for you.

I am touched by your words waybread, Thank you for supporting me at the difficult time of my life. I indeed have found a super community where members are greatly helpful for each other. I live in a third world country where these restraining order type of things don’t work well. I am supported by my father to get rid of troubles but still he is following me and stalking me.

Anyhow, I have tried making a composite chart of both of us (me and my ex bf ) through astro.com. It really shows a great chemistry between us as Jupiter is making many aspects. One of the aspects seemed very important to me where Moon Square Uranus which shows emotional instability in relationship. I certainly can not take so much instability that goes crazy at times.

By seeing my natal chart, can you say something about my marriage and husband? These days my relation with my mom is not good. I am kind of stuck in this situation. What my natal chart has to say about it.

[starzeeker]

Originally Posted by waybread

Fluffy, setting aside the astrology for a moment, if you know this man has an obsessive personality, was after your money, cheated on you with other women, "is a kind of sexual criminal", and then has been threatening you to the point where you have gone to the police--the time to get him out of your life is right now. A judge can give you a restraining order against him. If he has been stalking or harassing you, it is crucial that you look after your own personal safety.

In synastry (comparing two charts) the first things I look for are conjunctions or harmonious aspects (sextiles or trines) between the couple's suns, their moons, and then a "reverse" Venus/Mars relationship. I. e., a womans Venus aspects the man's Mars, and vice versa.

The problem is that it is possible to have super synastry with someone who is no good for you. It is also possible to get him out of your life, and to find someone else with good synastry who is good for you.

sounds scary. I have had several scorpio boyfriends who would just not give up. One of them pitched a tent in my parents frontyard. lol not so funny then. Another locked me in the closet and sat outside of it. Another I gave a ride to and he wouldnt get out of my car. So, I got out of my car on the freeway and waved someone down. Happened to be a large biker and he got that jerked out of my car. Scorpios are attracted to me. But like I said it is a scary thing to be around some of them. I dont mean to say that of all Scorpio men or woman. Just the 3 that barged into and wouldnt get out of my life! whew! down memory lane...

[Fluffy Girl]

Originally Posted by waybread

When a man acts as you've described, I have to think a bunch of things are going on besides the astrology, but just briefly:

1. He has Mars (in a man's chart, his masculinity) conjunct his sun [identity] and square Uranus. Uranus can be quite the "bad boy" because it challenges the status quo. To conventional people, a Uranian person can seem unusual or unpredictable. So I would read this configuration as someone who identifies with expressing his sexuality in unconventional ways. And with the square there, this can be a feeling of constant pressure. Afflictions between Mars and Uranus can also indicate someone with difficulty in controlling his anger.

Hello waybread, thank you for replying. I am quiet new to astrology, I even don’t know what are aspects and all these houses but I have just studied all these after reading your answer. I have tried studying his aspect of Mars Square Uranus, It has come to my notice that this aspect surely shows an Impatient, high-strung, and often nervous and tense nature but how have you specifically connected sexuality in these terms.

2. His sun/Mars are making happy aspects to Pluto and Venus. Venus symbolizes the kind of woman who appeals to him. But in the 12th house, he may be very unaware of why he responds to women in such promiscuous ways. A tight Pluto Venus square can make someone pretty obsessive about women. Interestingly, Venus also symbolizes money in a chart. The ruler of his "money house" is Uranus, which takes us back to point 1, above. So money would seem to be another obsession.

Have you heard about some thing about 18 degree Pluto. His Pluto is at 18 degree which makes a square with Venus which is also on 18 degree. It alarms me for his possessiveness and he may be a sexual criminal. His desires are overflowing.

His Jupiter is placed at 7th house. Doesn’t it nullify the effects of Venus in 12th house which shows secret affairs with married persons in usual?

3. With Neptune, north node/Saturn and Mercury involved in a wide T-square, he may actually have a lot of insecurities and self-esteem problems, such that being a Lady's Man is one way in which he seeks to boost his ego.

Interpretation of this T-Square is quiet new and revealing to me.

4. You actually appear to have very good synastry with this man, however! So I can understand why you both feel a connection. But given the problems you've described, I think you might throw this particular Fish back into the sea. You deserve someone who also matches your chart well, but is mature and responsible.

Why do I appear to have a good synastry with this person?? Now I am burning in a living hell after being with him in this relationship. He proved to be illmannerd and all stuff that i explaned above. What do u see about his marriage??