i wonder your opinions about sun-lilith aspects in synasty.for example,if a man's lilith is opposite to a woman's sun,what does it mean? in conjunction,can we say that the man will see another woman who hurt him in the past when he look at the woman whom he is in relationship with? if we can say that,how can we interpret the opposition?
My ex's lilith squared my sun by below zero degrees. Our BMLs squared eachother's. His lilith is opposite to my Ascendent by three to four degrees. And if I think his ascendent is where I think it is(I don't know when he was born but I just know that he was born in the afternoon), His ascendent would be square my lilith.
Anyways, I met him when transiting lilith entered my first house and the relationship ended when lilith entered my second house. I think both of us played out lilith, with him starting and triggering me to play out lilith.
So basically, I started off as a chubby young adult, that dressed awkwardly, clueless about sex. Our relationship ended as I lost weight, started being and acting more edgy, and started to subconsciously partake in more games.(it's hard to explain) The relationship ended when he thought I cheated on him which I didn't. Now, I still suffer from body weight issues even though I'm a pound underweight, I spend a lot of money on clothes, and I have to look my best, act my best, be the most intelligent, basically be on top of my game.
Anyways, let me explain to you some of what was going on in the relationship behind the background. The man triggered my subconscious insecurities, and it caused me to be someone I never was before. He triggered very very dark emotions that I channeled to change and transform myself completely. Once that transformation was in full effect, (also due to me simply hanging out with one guy friend, and me getting hit on more), he realized that he couldn't emotionally or even physically control a chubby young adult with self esteem issues and low boundaries because I never was her anymore. So he left me. This also happened just as lilith went out of my first house.
To me, he was lilith. But you have to understand that Lilith has the power to control every aspect of the person she's trying to seduce, whether it's his sexual instincts or emotions. That's what was happening to me. And him playing out the incubus role was controlling my sexuality, and my emotions. However, because I feared losing control, I somehow tried to take on the role of the succubus, femme fatale, etc but ended up losing him instead.
But again, I have BML opposite sun, square ascendent and conjunct my MC. It's who I was meant to become. So that probably was the only purpose of this relationship, I suppose. Remember we attract other people in order to conjure up a part of our chart.
He probably attracted me into his life in order to deal with the issues he had with controlling women or various lovers. Since he doesn't have money, he used sex appeal and emotional manipulation to lure in lovers to him. That's something he needs to deal with.
Bottom line, underneath all of these pluto and lilith femme fatales, sucubuses, players, and incubuses lies a huge amount of insecurity and emotional chaos that they are just trying to cope with.