Hi, VenusinLibra
sounds like it's open season, on you in this thread. sheesh. I am so glad you shared all you did in this thread, because it's astrologically relevant. I have a similar setup to you. Moon in 12th(Gemini), conjunct ascendant by 1 degree. 1st house is cancer. My sun is opposite Uranus. venus, Jupiter, moon, mars, saturn and pluto are all aspecting Uranus. I like my freedom
Every reply you have received here in this thread I've been told as well, only in person and non astrologically. I have been living with a man for 11 years, who is very saturnian, has moon in aquarius. weird, this similarity. though we are not together. we were together the 1st year. since then it's more of a roommate setup. we date other people - he is more like my immature brother who I happen to be friends with. So it's a little different there. People don't understand living arrangements like this. Especially not men. Because men will think like men. and expect you to be sleeping with your roommate. since they likely would. so it doesn't matter if you're not.
Most people that would date you, aware of your living situation, are most probably not going to be the right type of partners. If you want a healthy relationship with someone more likely to be honest and loyal, youre probably going to have to move elsewhere. Your friend might be more like a security blanket that at some point your going to need to let go of if you are seeking a loyal long term romantic partner. requited love, doesn't seem to be denied to you. but your hindering your prospects of finding it.
I'm leaving my own situation with plans to move back to my natal city/home to open up new avenues in my own life, and let go of the past which I've totally outgrown.
I think when you have challenging aspects to Uranus this is what is so challenging embracing uranian nature. letting go of a safe existence.
lastly, you don't have to be more feminine and play Susie-home-maker/dumb it down/be less assertive to find a suitable partner. what's that about. just be honest with who you are from the get go and you'll attract someone that compliments your nature, but you might have to give up your housing arrangement for it. & There are plenty of intellectual interesting men that don't care if you order Chinese take out every night. this is 2013. not the stone age. you don't have to change who you are fundamentally to find someone. that's my Lilith 1st house talking!
all the best to you hun