Originally Posted by Hush10
I suppose it's a sort of 'inverted projection' that takes place - you may influence others subliminally or unconsciously to behave towards you in the way in which you want them to. This is great if, say, you like someone but you're too timid to articulate it, or act on how you feel.
I'll again refer to the above quote by Hush10 from post #16, because I think there is a lot in it which is very true for this conjunction and how it affects people, especially when in relationship.
I live with my adult son. I have Mars-Neptune (closely, less than 1 degree) conjunct in Libra in 9th, both conj my MC. My son has Mars also in Libra, in the 12th house. His Mars forms the apex of a yod. He and I are forever unconsciously projecting our shadow selves on to one another. It is common for one or other of us to get really unhappy with the other over something-or-other, and there are times when the air between us is very dark indeed. Whenever I find myself thinking: Why doesn't he do `x'?
or I really wish he were more `y'
, then my answer must be to see my projection on him as something I am deeply unhappy about in myself.
We are both very, very sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of the other, so sometimes I have no idea if my feelings are his or my own. This is where Mars-Neptune conjunct is very difficult to live with.