Relationship confusion, can anyone help me please?

[leighby]

Hi there,

I am a great believer in the soul mate concept, to the point that I think that I have met my soul mate 12 years ago, but we didnt end up together. However over the 12 years we have had many meetings and assignations, but nothing has come of it.

I have been in a relationship with a guy for the last 4 and a half years and we live together and we are going through a bad patch.

Hence ex has reappeared and I am so confused about my feelings.

Over the years I have had many vivid dreams about the ex, and to this extent a week ago I was having a dream about me and him being together when my mobile phone beeps its 5.35am and its a text from him!

I have attached my partner capricorn and my ex cancers' charts to this post, hopefully it will work and someone will be able to make some sense of this cause I cannot!

many thanks for reading and if anyone can give me some insight into this I would be very grateful!


Leigh

[leighby]

I forgot to attach my chart!

[rahu]

leigh
could you post your birth data so i could run up some compositesor post the composite chart for them
rahu

[leighby]

ok here it is

I was born 8th of april 1972 at 18:30gmt in colchester essex uk


many thanks


Leigh

[rahu]

while i'm working on gary's composite,would you posy jays birth place as it is partially cut of in the chart posted
rahu

[leighby]

Dear Rahu

many thanks for your time on this

Jay was born in Greenwich, as in mean time! London

Leigh

[rahu]

okay
the composite with gary shows a clear physical attraction with the venus/mars midpoint conjunct the descendant.the emotional and sexual chemistry is very good.with pluto opposed to mars the physical/sexual intensity is intense,but this physical intensity can come at the expense of the emotional bonding. seems that your attraction to gary is not just the physicalas he has a strong magnetism,charisma or persence.he also seems to have a knack of being in the right place at the right time.
the moon/jupiter conjunction trine to mars shows the nurturing,caring emotions necessary for a longterm relationhip.with saturn forming a grand trine with these palnets.the chart shows a stable ,supportive relationship.
the fly in the ointment is sun/saturn midpoint opposed to uranus.this configuration usually shows a unstable relationship as the partner feels his freedom restricted.it also shows a relationship where the members grow at diferent rates personally or different direction that draw them apart.
the pluto/mars opposition can also come into play,as it can show that he has a need to dominate the relationship.this can show a hard,insensitive individual that relies on sexuality devoid of emotional content to rule his perspective.another aspect of break up is the jupiter/uranus midpoint square the sun. this indicates that your current problems are terminal
and the problems started in middle november and hit bottom in middle december .
rahu

[leighby]

Wow that is amazing and so accurate!

Our problems did start in november, he wants to go out and feels stifled by our relationship, and because I am 11 years older I am frustrated by his childish behaviour.

He insisted on going out on christmas eve to go drinking with a group of guys, I didnt want him to go and he went anyway, so I ended it with him.

He came home and begged for another chance, which I have given him, we are getting on a little better, but Im not sure for the long term at the moment.

[rahu]

it is interesting that both these composites have neptune/jupiter/moon conjunction.this is probably the influence that makes you feel these are soul mates,though jay is currently suspect LOL.jays composite has the neptune jupiter miedpoint conjunct the moon giving the same affectas a stellium of these planets.with jay ,you have venus opposed to this planet .one has a one of the strongest configurations for marriage.as the love,nurturing and social urge is present.configuration also indicates that you finances are the stronger.
that you didn't marry is promarily because this chart has a mars opposed to uranus on the midheaven axis.this highlights his individualist and eccentric ways and indicates the is very unconventional and will not sacfrice his need of freedom.although this opposition is sextile/trine to the venus/moon opposition which can greatly stablize the disruptive quality of uranus.then uranus gives a vibrancy to the relationship that keeps it sharp,growing and interesting.
with a chiron conjunct mars,jay had a knack for giving backhanded compliments or denigrating moments of great itimacy.but i woul dalso think that it was this chiron infleunce coupled with the uranus opposition that was responsible for the email in the middle of your dream as uranus rules the astral/dream plane and he by his actions was on with you on that olane during the dream.
jays composite indicates that the two of you had/have a strong pschic connection.i would expect that you two could read each other thoughs and answer questions before they were verbalized.
your chart has a sun opposed to uranus which often chracterizes someone who has astral power.so you are subject to vivid dreams,flying dreams,prophetic dreams and possibly out of the body experiences
rahu

[leighby]

this is incredible descriptions of both of these relationships! In your opinion, and I still have the power of free will and decision, will either of these guys be the one, or is my relationship with Gary going to last, or will I finally get to be with Jay?

He is a wandering soul and he tends to float in and out of my life, which I dont know what to do about.

I do love both of them but in different ways, Jay is an amazing man, but I dont believe, even though he has long term relationships and has lived with women, that he wants to settle down, as he tends to live with them, but not be with them 100%.

He never lived with me and his mum used to tell me that I am the only woman he has every really loved and had respect for, and that is the reason that he didnt live with me!

Gary is a lovely guy too, we have been through some pretty dramatic things in our relationship. It seems calm now, but I am not sure whether we have a future.

If you could provide any further insight, that would be fantastic!

Thanks again Rahu. On the question of soul mates is it possible to have more than one?

Leigh

[rahu]

with a strong uranus presence in a chart,one should not marry until in their thirties as the changes of personality are so great that any partnership formed early usually fails as the individuals change in different ways or at different rates.so it seems that the relationship with jay would be the one to pursue.based on my opinion and not gary's chart,i would think gary needs more years to grow up.by the time he does ,years of the relationship could be lost.
jay,on the other hand should be past the point of uranus's disrupted influence on relationships.actually his chart indicates that he is interested in a sustained relationship ,even marriage right now.
the astral nature of the relationship with jay could point to his being your soul mate.if he is then i would think he would be ready to make a committment to you.i suggest you brazenly ask him if he could be involved in a committed relationship,even marriage with you.
the only qualms i have is his neptune opposed to saturn which can show a lack of self confidence or a substance abuse complex.
with his moon/uranus conjunction inthe 5th square to his sun,his emotional independence is very strong and usually it would not be wise to expect such a nativity to committ to any bond that limited his freedom.but the moon/uranus could also be symbolic of this mate.with your uranus/sun opposition,this placement could easily describe you.also as mentioned he is leaving the period of his life when uranus is most characteristic of a need of freedom.
i am assuming that the astral connection you two have will stabilize the reality plane.
gary has a moon/pluto/saturn stellium.though this does give a maturity far beyond his age.this is very dominering and it doesn't seem that this would harmonize with your independent nature.opinion wise again,as you older i think the age difference will become more of a problem.he is beginning to grow up but you are grown up.but he also seems to be inclining toward accepting a committed relationship for now.it just seems he will have more bouts with his need for independence in the future.
rahu

[leighby]

thank you very much for your input on this Rahu, it has been extremely useful for me!

I guess one can have more than one soul mate, but for different reasons

I have noticed that I have either gone out with capricorns or cancerians, and one libran.

My best friend who I have an on/off friendship, which is off at the moment, is also a capricorn.

What does it all mean! lol

Leigh

[leighby]

I hope that someone can help me. I am absolutely devestated my relationship with Gary has ended. Its been 2 weeks, I cannot eat, sleep and I cannot stop crying. Can anyone tell me if there is any hope for reconciliation? As I keep praying that he will come back.

He hasnt taken any of his possessions, and he keeps coming round, I keep crying, he crys, he says he loves me and always will.

I feel so confused, he keeps coming round, but if I ask him round, I was poorly yesterday and he wouldnt come around, but when he came round today he said he felt really bad for not coming.

Im not handling it very well, and I have health issues being a diabetic, and stress and upset is bad for me. But the slightest thing sets me off. I was in a supermarket today with my mum, and I saw this cake, it was a joke birthday cake shaped like a set of breasts, and I thought Gary would like that, and I started crying in a shop!

I know if it is over I just have to accept it and try and move on, but I feel so ill right now and am so scared that Ive lost the love of my life.

so if anyone can spare the time to reply, Id really appreciate it.


Love Leigh

[lorieno]

Out of interest I weighted each composite aspect between you and Gary and you and Jay as well as each synastry aspects (all of them not just the traditional good aspects) and I think that Gary has (sadly if "had") the best potential for long term relationship. I hope I am not bringing salt to the wound and truly wish you all the best!

Out of interest I also did a search for a birthdate (between 1969 and 1975) with a VERY high incidence of harmonic synastry and I came up with
23 janv 1974.

Someone born on this day has:

Composite Moon sextile composite Venus.
Composite Venus sextile composite Jupiter.
Your Sun sextile other's Jupiter.
Your Venus trine other's Venus.
Your Venus trine other's Pluto.
Your Venus trine other's Sun.
Your Mercury sextile other's Moon.
Your Venus trine other's Moon.
Your Mars trine other's Venus.
Your Neptune sextile other's Venus.
Your Pluto trine other's Venus.

Lots of contacts to your 4th house... I don't know about Soul Mates but so many trines and sextiles would certainly make an interesting relationship.