FishNChips62
01-05-2008, 04:29 AM
Ah ok so there's this guy and we seem to have a very passionate connection....yet it's more like a loving tenderness underneath it all. However, I'm not sure what it is really, it seems like he only wants to be "friends" with me....yet sometimes it feels like he flirts with me or something. I, pretty much, would just like to be friends with him cuz, you know, I care about him.....but hey it never hurts to wonder ;) ;) and I Wonder! if a relationship could ever have been possible between us. We are "cousins" --not really our mom are just really close, ok? But he REFERS to me as his cousin, so I would take that AS A HINT, yet......I am just wondering how even a friendship would be between us...plus I can't help but wonder how a relationship could've or might've been (he's getting married soon, so that's out of the question now).
Ok, I will give you some background info. ^^
Well, ever since I was 5 I really really liked him...but just going by his appearance. And, well he seemed to be flattered that I liked him, like really flattered (makes sense with my Mars conjunct his Venus). It also seems that he appreciates my jokes and my "energy" (maaarrs energy, lol), too^^. He has a virgo moon, and yes, he does seem to be a bit insecure sometimes, just adding onto the astrological relevance of it all here. He has been pretty mean to me sometimes...like out of nowhere....but has shown himself to be really forgiving and affectionate and whatnot blah blah point is I know he cares about me. I can sense tenderness between us, and he's usually really nice to me...if you ignore sometimes random abrupt remarks or whatever. I once got mad at him...probably because 'm mad at the way that I act around him---that I totally can't be myself---so I snapped at him when something he said was sort of incoherent...but really, it didn't call for as much of a "temper" as I gave it in response. So basically, I was a little rude to him, I replied to what he said, in a tone which said "what are you talking about, you don't make any sense..what are you thinking, are you stupid? what are you saying? Listen to yourself." Yeah, I guess kinda harsh..but hey it doesn't compare to some things HE's said to me before...or at least ONE thing. He said "You're good for nothing." MY GOD! right? Lol. I don't really see how he could have said it so casually to me when he did..but yeah, I guess he's just not empathetic enough with not enough water in his chart??
I think he's kind of scared by the passion that arouses between us, especially the one that suddenly blows up off the ground
lol every time we see each other again *sigh* lol (at least for me it does, ok I don't really know about him...but he always smiles..a lot.. when he's greeting me)...usually I'm the one to get all starry eyed while he is sweet and gentleman-like but doesn't act like he has the hots for me or anything. I pretty much think he's cute (actually, make that EXTREMELY HOT..sorry can't help it--HA!), still, you know, but have no intention of being in a romantic relationship with him (just want to get to know him better really badly!). I just can't help but wonder...every time I see him...what a closer friendship might be like (I definitely feel a yearning to get closer to him, like a friendship together would teach the both of us new things).
It's funny that, him being a Gemini, it seems that he actually finds me hilarious more often than not. What can I say.. you know, all that Leo in my chart^^. Hehe.
The thing that most excites me about a friendship with him is that I just feel like we care about each other a lot lot lot, I think that he really cares about me in the end..he just doesn't seem all too mature sometimes. I'm just pretty thrilled about ever having deeper discussions with him about topics, cuz I think we'd have a lot to talk about...if we tried hard enough^^, and well, eventually I think it has the potential to be a pretty close friendship, but, pretty much, I AM JUST WONDERING RIGHT NOW HOW HE (MIGHT PROBABLY) FEEL TOWARDS ME and how a love relationship between would've ever been like if it had occurred. OK? That is my question! Plain and simply..mkay? :P :]]
Oh, one more thing, and I have no idea why, but lately he was really nervous around me...? I think it was because I have developed something which fits spot on with "Social Anxiety Disorder," and so I'd imagine it'd make anybody uncomfortable to be around me! ha. But, honestly...like, you know, it makes one uncomfortable or equally jittery most likely, to be around someone who is as jittery and nervous as I get when being faced with any sort of face-to-face social interaction. I noticed, though, that he even started shaking (when I wasn't talking to him but the possibility was there because we were in a group conversation)?? I have no idea why, though.. I was thinking maybe it's because he thinks that I'm acting that way b/c I really like him, and he's jittery about, again, the "passion that rises up--always re-initiated by me." Maybe those feelings make him jittery, you know? But, truthfully I act that exact same way with everybody else, not just him. It's just that he seems to be more responsive to my jitteriness so it just makes me even more jittery LOL...everybody else simply acts like there's nothing strange goin on...for some reason he has a hard time "ignoring" it.
I'll leave you with the data...to come to conclusions for yourself.
Thanks for all the help, because I think it's safe to say that this really is the relationship that is THE most curious to me out of all others in my life (you know, so far). I definitely haven't felt as strong a yearning to get close to someone as I have with him with anyone before.
ahh Thanks thanks thanks. Really appreciate all the help I can get about this. Really, eh, even a -short sentence- is enough^^
p.s. Keep in mind that His sun falls into my 8th house! and my sun falls into his 11th house! Yikes! That's pretty horrible, right? tHat means he doesn't see the "potential for a deeper relationship" thing with me, right? But more just sees me as a "friend" right right right? Ahhhhh ..LoL!
Him
6/16/1983
12:30 PM - actually UNKNOWN BIRTHTIME, but I kind of guessed that his rising sign was in Virgo from what I could tell from the other Virgo Rising's appearance on this site http://librarising.com/astrology
After virgo maybe I would guess Scorpio. Agh! Just use 12:30 Pleeease :) Tank yu
Havana, Cuba
Chinese sign: Pig
Me
7/6/1989
02:34 PM
Havana, Cuba
Chinese sign: Snake
Also, wanted to post my version of this question at Yahoo answers....
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ao_2_KlDcCYY3tGnEo00YC7ty6IX;_ylv=3?qid =20071216195242AAfSy13
As you can see Luc de Jaeger from Cosmitec Astrology was among the answerers, YAY! LOL. I just was really really happy to get an answer from him and was wondering if any of you could like agree or disagree with what some of these people had to say, too. THANK YOU!
Ok, I will give you some background info. ^^
Well, ever since I was 5 I really really liked him...but just going by his appearance. And, well he seemed to be flattered that I liked him, like really flattered (makes sense with my Mars conjunct his Venus). It also seems that he appreciates my jokes and my "energy" (maaarrs energy, lol), too^^. He has a virgo moon, and yes, he does seem to be a bit insecure sometimes, just adding onto the astrological relevance of it all here. He has been pretty mean to me sometimes...like out of nowhere....but has shown himself to be really forgiving and affectionate and whatnot blah blah point is I know he cares about me. I can sense tenderness between us, and he's usually really nice to me...if you ignore sometimes random abrupt remarks or whatever. I once got mad at him...probably because 'm mad at the way that I act around him---that I totally can't be myself---so I snapped at him when something he said was sort of incoherent...but really, it didn't call for as much of a "temper" as I gave it in response. So basically, I was a little rude to him, I replied to what he said, in a tone which said "what are you talking about, you don't make any sense..what are you thinking, are you stupid? what are you saying? Listen to yourself." Yeah, I guess kinda harsh..but hey it doesn't compare to some things HE's said to me before...or at least ONE thing. He said "You're good for nothing." MY GOD! right? Lol. I don't really see how he could have said it so casually to me when he did..but yeah, I guess he's just not empathetic enough with not enough water in his chart??
I think he's kind of scared by the passion that arouses between us, especially the one that suddenly blows up off the ground
lol every time we see each other again *sigh* lol (at least for me it does, ok I don't really know about him...but he always smiles..a lot.. when he's greeting me)...usually I'm the one to get all starry eyed while he is sweet and gentleman-like but doesn't act like he has the hots for me or anything. I pretty much think he's cute (actually, make that EXTREMELY HOT..sorry can't help it--HA!), still, you know, but have no intention of being in a romantic relationship with him (just want to get to know him better really badly!). I just can't help but wonder...every time I see him...what a closer friendship might be like (I definitely feel a yearning to get closer to him, like a friendship together would teach the both of us new things).
It's funny that, him being a Gemini, it seems that he actually finds me hilarious more often than not. What can I say.. you know, all that Leo in my chart^^. Hehe.
The thing that most excites me about a friendship with him is that I just feel like we care about each other a lot lot lot, I think that he really cares about me in the end..he just doesn't seem all too mature sometimes. I'm just pretty thrilled about ever having deeper discussions with him about topics, cuz I think we'd have a lot to talk about...if we tried hard enough^^, and well, eventually I think it has the potential to be a pretty close friendship, but, pretty much, I AM JUST WONDERING RIGHT NOW HOW HE (MIGHT PROBABLY) FEEL TOWARDS ME and how a love relationship between would've ever been like if it had occurred. OK? That is my question! Plain and simply..mkay? :P :]]
Oh, one more thing, and I have no idea why, but lately he was really nervous around me...? I think it was because I have developed something which fits spot on with "Social Anxiety Disorder," and so I'd imagine it'd make anybody uncomfortable to be around me! ha. But, honestly...like, you know, it makes one uncomfortable or equally jittery most likely, to be around someone who is as jittery and nervous as I get when being faced with any sort of face-to-face social interaction. I noticed, though, that he even started shaking (when I wasn't talking to him but the possibility was there because we were in a group conversation)?? I have no idea why, though.. I was thinking maybe it's because he thinks that I'm acting that way b/c I really like him, and he's jittery about, again, the "passion that rises up--always re-initiated by me." Maybe those feelings make him jittery, you know? But, truthfully I act that exact same way with everybody else, not just him. It's just that he seems to be more responsive to my jitteriness so it just makes me even more jittery LOL...everybody else simply acts like there's nothing strange goin on...for some reason he has a hard time "ignoring" it.
I'll leave you with the data...to come to conclusions for yourself.
Thanks for all the help, because I think it's safe to say that this really is the relationship that is THE most curious to me out of all others in my life (you know, so far). I definitely haven't felt as strong a yearning to get close to someone as I have with him with anyone before.
ahh Thanks thanks thanks. Really appreciate all the help I can get about this. Really, eh, even a -short sentence- is enough^^
p.s. Keep in mind that His sun falls into my 8th house! and my sun falls into his 11th house! Yikes! That's pretty horrible, right? tHat means he doesn't see the "potential for a deeper relationship" thing with me, right? But more just sees me as a "friend" right right right? Ahhhhh ..LoL!
Him
6/16/1983
12:30 PM - actually UNKNOWN BIRTHTIME, but I kind of guessed that his rising sign was in Virgo from what I could tell from the other Virgo Rising's appearance on this site http://librarising.com/astrology
After virgo maybe I would guess Scorpio. Agh! Just use 12:30 Pleeease :) Tank yu
Havana, Cuba
Chinese sign: Pig
Me
7/6/1989
02:34 PM
Havana, Cuba
Chinese sign: Snake
Also, wanted to post my version of this question at Yahoo answers....
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ao_2_KlDcCYY3tGnEo00YC7ty6IX;_ylv=3?qid =20071216195242AAfSy13
As you can see Luc de Jaeger from Cosmitec Astrology was among the answerers, YAY! LOL. I just was really really happy to get an answer from him and was wondering if any of you could like agree or disagree with what some of these people had to say, too. THANK YOU!