Getting over it

[The_Sundance_Kid]

Deleted, except I don't know how to delete, so I had to edit and write this instead.

[Peter Gray.]

Hi, I understand how a bright mind like yourself is looking for answers on such a delicate issue. It is very difficult when a relationship breaks. If you keep checking within the next two days I will have looked at your charts and will post the results.This will be a serious study.Hang on and I will give you a whole overview of the situation and the future consequences.

[rahu]

there are a couple of potentially confusing aspects dealing with sexuality.in the composite chart, the mars square to venus is one of the major indicators of spontaneous emotional/sexual tension,usually of a attractive nature but it also can manifest in replusive manners.the mars/venus midpoint is conjunct to uranus,this is a very intense,explosive sexual aspect.it show emotional/sexual intensity levels that peak then usually burnout.it marks exceptionally intense relationships but they are usually very brief,but emotionally addictive .pluto is conjunct venus and square to mars and the moon also enters into this T square as the moon is opposed to mars and square to the venus/pluto conjunction.the pluto element can bring a more instinctual,selfish ,ego-centered sexuality into play.but it is so threatening that it can also make a person shun sexuality ,it can manifest as celibacy.from what you have said about this relationship ,it seems that the intial sexual attraction was present,but the fear of the more instinctual elements of pluto interfered.with moon square to pluto and venus conjunct pluto,it is highly possible that she has had some traumatic sexual experiences in her life.it looks like he loved and feared you at the same time,and her issues interfered with the relationship.i would have expected you to first get together december 06
rahu

[The_Sundance_Kid]

Thanks Peter and Draco, I appreciate your efforts, and will meditate on them. This issue means alot to me and I'm trying my best to move on. I think I'm there mentally, I just need my emotions to catch up- unfortunately they're rather fixed.

[The_Sundance_Kid]

Hey has anyone got any more thoughts on this... I'm dying over here! How do I let go? Should I let go?

[jjj]

Hey Sundance,

do not die over there, many of us have been through this and we have survived... Looking at your chart I noticed powerful Venus-Pluto patterns (you both have Venus-Pluto conjunction natally, the same aspect in the composite and synastry). You have Venus (retrograde, thus karmic) and Pluto in the 12th house of suffering and sprituality, obviously these are themes that you have to work on in this life, attracting partners that help you to do it, often in a negative and painful manner.
I have also Venus in scorpio natally and I know what it means... a lot of pain. This is not a lucky position, but a deep one, helping you to go more deep in human relationships than many others, so consider it as a gift, not only as a curse:).
You both seem to be obsessed with each other (in synastry you have sun-saturn interaspects and your composite sun conjuncts the composite south node, this must be a past life tie). I noticed that your planets in synastry fall in her 6th house that is not a very favourable position, try to check out yourself the meaning of it. With pluto-venus there are power games played, with your venus in scorpio you may tend to impose your power over your partner. My personal experience shows that with this position the only way out is to leave power games behing, to be as sincere as possible and not to exerce your power in ANY WAY. This breaks the vicious circle of power games. You are tempted to use your power in love, DO NOT USE, renounce to power.

Btw as a native 7 (numerology, I am too) you may have difficulties to find the right partner, but once you will find it the bond will be very strong.

:)Janika