Man trouble.. please help

[coffeegirl]

Hi everyone :) I'm new here.. if any of you could help me it would be greatly appreciated! about a week ago I met someone and instantly we had a connection.. for the last week we have kept in very regular contact and developed a strong like for each other. As he has been travelling around a lot we haven't seen each other in person since and now he has gone back overseas. He says he wants to see me when he comes back to work here. I want to see him too but I don't know if what he and I feel is real... I have many reasons why I shouldn't pursue this... but I've never felt this strongly about someone after such a very short period of time and having only met in person once!... this whole situation is making me crazy which is why I need to know why this man came into my life and if there is any real connection there.. Please help me :confused:


Me
13/03/1982, christchurch, new zealand, 12.30am
Him
12/03/1978, south yorkshire, england, 4am

[Shining Ray]

Hi Coffee Girl,

At a quick glance at the synastry between you. Both your Mars are square to each other and your Pluto is conjunct his Mars and Mars is square Pluto. I will have to look in to the synastry further when I have time later. Reading briefly in my synastry book Mars Conjunct Pluto is one of the most powerful interactions there is, and as such can corrupt or heal, transform or destroy. You can become (if the relationship went further) intensely and passionately involved in a sexual way. In an emotional relationship, this interaction reaches parts other interactions can't reach! This means your involvement brings all manner of feelings and desires to the surface, some wonderful others hard to handle. A great deal depends on what is motivating you both, and whether there is a higher goal you are aiming for. If you are simply getting off on the power and intensity for the sake of it, you are probably unwittingly sowing the wind only to find you have a tornado in your hands.

There is also a big sister/little sister, element in your relationship. If such is the case, the 'big' half will try to manipulate and dominate the 'little' half who, in turn, may be tempted to use fair means or even foul to get even. It is when such selfish interest creep into this relationship that the destructive element is set in motion, and it can escalate horribly. Again this stresses the importance of having an objective that is regenerative for one or both of you, or someone or something outside the relationship. Something quite dark and even dangerous, can as I say be surfaced by you coming together. If you are not aware of this and of some means of eliminating or transforming your emotions, then you could find yourselves in a sticky situation. Metaphorically, it is as if your relationship is an oil that draws the black stuff to the surface, but it has to be processed and refined to render it manageable. I would have to look at your natal in more detail as I think it should show in you Birth Chart whether or not you would be drawn to a relationship like this. I think if you did have a relationship together it would be very intense and quite a dominating force in your life. It could be this intense connection between your planets which is making you feel a strong pull towards this man although you have only briefly met.

P.S Check I have done your charts correctly. :) I am not putting you off having a relationship with him, just pointing out the difficulties you may have later on. It all depends on the two people concerned and how willing they are to work on themselves and the relationship.

[wilsontc]

Ray,

Coffee's chart is off, since "Christchurch" is not listed as the New Zealand location. There are some aspects to coffee's Venus which are not listed on the synastry chart (the synastry looks as if there are no connections to her Venus), but the Mars-Pluto connections you identify are the big challenges in these charts. Anger issues need to be avoided or they could get "out of hand."

Reviewing charts,

Tim

[coffeegirl]

First of all, thanks Shining Ray and Wilson for taking the time to look this over.. As for the mars/pluto aspects I do feel like I'm being pulled towards him regardless of whether I want to be with him or not and have actually discussed this with him before.. I guess the anger/ sister problems will play out at as (or if even) the relationship progresses? Thanks for the insights.. I'd be grateful for more if any of you have the time, cheers

[rahu]

hi coffee girl,
i'd say they based on your composite chart with him that what you feel is true and mutual.venus is opposed to the mar/jupiter conjunction.this shows spontaneous affection ,sexual/emotional attracton and the jupiter element indicates a longterm relationship is probable.i know it is premature but the jupiter position bodes well for marriage.this is also indicated by juno conjunct the ascendant.again these are mutual feelings .the moon is trine to the sun,another indication of innate compatibility.on the negative side the sun is opposed to saturn which could reflect the problem of distance.it can also show he may be a bit hesistant to committ,it can ,on the positive side ,show committment after a length of time has passed.
also on the negative is neptune square to the sun and neptune.this can bring uncertainties and unspoken or hidden influences.it can indicate that there is deception possible,but it can also show a feeling that this is meant to be.if meds or alcohol have been a integral part of your experience together then extreme caution is necessary as these substances can undermine all the positive in the composite.sometimes neptune can indicate a difference in religion or culture.
the moon is opposed to pluto at midheaven.this can indicate that you have severe misgivings,in spite of the obvious affection,you feel something is missing.though the moon is trine uranus whcih adds interst to the relationship the midpoint is conjunct to saturn.this indicates that there is a great ambivalence about the relationship.this aspect can show a relationship with highs and lows.
the love in this relationship is true,but whether it will withstand ups and downs ,only time can tell,but it more than worth trying to find out.
rahu
rahu

[coffeegirl]

Thanks Rahu for shedding some more light.. He and I both feel that we met for a reason I don't think I'll know what that reason is until I see him again.. whenever that may be. I'll bear all of this info mind when the time comes

[AquariusMoon]

Coffeegirl, since his Mars is conjunct your NNode and square your Saturn, his Pluto is conjunct your Mars/Saturn and square your NNode, I'd advise that you get to know him very well before getting too involved with him, approach with caution. Tim is right, there are some real anger issues here.

[2rainbows]

i support aquariusmoon's post.
i think neptune is throwing some monkey wrenches so it will be very hard to know truth from fiction. i think there are likely severe issues with aspects to house 2 for any long term love relationship.
if i were you, i would not encourage a love relationship in the slightest.
the big IF, IF you can maintain a purely platonic relationship, you have a whole different ball game to play with and surely worth persuing!!
2rainbows