divorcing and seduction

[lillith]

Dear Astrologers, I am a newbie with some second language issues. Since last November, I've been feeling that I was unhappy with my marriage (my partner and I have been together for 10 years but got married two years ago). I am inhibited in the sex department. I am 30 and had never penetrative sex. My partner does not seem to mind (unfortunately). We are now separated for two months in order to think about our relationship individually.
I feel like I started to send very strong unintentional sexual vibes because I noticed four co-workers (three of them are 6 years older than me) and two acquaintance trying to approach me. Then, seeing that I don't flirt back (venus in capricorn), i guess they feel rejected and thus, start avoiding me. The problem is that watery elements in my chart makes me feel very sensitive to their vibes and i don't understand whether i am attracted to them or not. every week i find myself fancying one of them. when i see that guy the other week, i am already fancying another one. I feel like i cannot control my hunger for sex and my vibes. what is happening to me? is this about my age or is this about the transits? when will this suffering end? should i get a divorce and try a relationship (at least casual) with one of these guys? thanks for your suggestions :)

My info is:
birth: 15/01/81
time: 6.20
place: turkey/canakkale

[07.Re]

Lillith, it would be best if you inserted your chart. Here are instructions that'll help you in doing so:

http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12126

[Caprising]

You're not the first female that I have met who hasn't had sex before age 30. Why bother if there is no interest! As our charts progress, and transits hit various planets/points our desire for sex can become stronger or weaker depending on individual planetary placements, and once we enter into a partnership our other half usually expects some sexual intimacy. Your natal moon in a wide conjunction to chiron indicates a nurturing issue might be in the background, while your saturn/jupiter conjunction in Libra right on the M.C. points to a very conservative approach to relating. Saturn is stronger than Jupiter in Libra, so will most likely result in a very moralistic approach to sexual relations, jupiter will expand this moralistic stance somewhat, and it doesn't help that your natal venus is in Capricorn so is ruled by this overemphasised Saturn/Jupiter in Libra conjunction. Your progressed chart does show a lot of mental confusion over this issue, as your progressed mercury is now in pisces, and transiting Neptune is conjunct it at this point in time. What this means is you will probably be a bit "lost" as too which direction to go in. I would suggest maybe buying some books on the subject of sexual relations, and do some exploring in this area

Edit: You didn't put am or pm after your birth time, so I went for the chart that fitted best i.m.o.

[astrologer50]

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[lillith]

Dear Astrologers, Here is my and my hubby's charts in the attached. I am unfortunately currently under the spell of a co-worker whose b-day is 17 October 1975 (born in Oxford, UK but I don't know the exact hour). I am struggling as I have to decide whether to end the marriage or not. I am of course curious about the other guy who has managed to put me under his spell just with his eyes: we are distant and professional to each other but i feel like his eyes communicate whole different things. Am I going crazy? :(

...and am glad to hear that i am not the only person who did not have sex till 30. The issue is I am with my partner for 10 years and I had a lot of invites for sex from other men but I always automatically refuse them because I have some defense mechanisms (very high morals) which make me disgusted of sex (unfortunately) although I am very sensual (paradoxically). I even think of killing myself sometimes as I get depressed a lot. I would be grateful if you could help me with your insights. Thanks a lot in advance!

[astrologer50]

I notice T Pluto has been/is conjunct natal venus, which brings lots of intensity and poss power struggles for control. I also notice you have exalted taurus moon, which is challenged by square to mars, suggesting a very bossy mother.

Moon rules 8th house of sex and attitudes towards it

[lillith]

Dear astrologer50, thanks a lot for your comments. My mother is very bossy indeed. you're right. could you tell me why i feel like i can't control my sexual vibes and i'm sexually attracting all men around me? it's like panic attack all the time and unlike me, 'it' is not picky about men. i'm feeling lost and awkward.

[astrologer50]

Dear astrologer50, thanks a lot for your comments. My mother is very bossy indeed. you're right. could you tell me why i feel like i can't control my sexual vibes and i'm sexually attracting all men around me? it's like panic attack all the time and unlike me, 'it' is not picky about men. i'm feeling lost and awkward.

Again, T Pluto conj natal venus


Love relationships that begin at this time have a way of becoming very intense. Sometimes these relationships are called "fatal attractions" because these relationships can end tragically. The unequal sharing of power is often an issue. Sexual urges tend to be very strong. In sex, this combination symbolizes bondage, S&M and domination / submission scenarios. Sometimes this can indicate that you are stalked by someone with an obsession for you.
http://www.astrology-x-files.com/transits/pluto-cj-venus.html


Your romantic life, social life, and value system are undergoing a complete transformation with Pluto transiting conjunct natal Venus. You are seeking depth of experience in your social and love relationships with Pluto transiting conjunct your natal Venus; or, this kind of experience comes into your life now. Someone may enter your life now, or circumstances arise, that completely changes your outlook, alters your value system, or consumes much of your time, thoughts, and energy.
http://cafeastrology.com/plutotransits.html

Intimacy, passion, and intensity is what you seek (or these find you!). Anything less will not satisfy. Your relationships can have a compulsive quality to them, and you are unlikely to listen to reason or rationality. Irrational fears about your lovability and love in general come up for inspection now.
http://cafeastrology.com/plutotransits.html

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[astrologer50]

you are also having a Saturn return

Saturn Return
Saturn takes 30 years or so to complete its circuit around the zodiac so events that occur around the age of 29-30, 58-59 and 84-87 will be of great significance to the native, depending on the strength and aspects to natal saturn.
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http://www.lifescript.com/Soul/Horos...aking_Out.aspx (http://www.lifescript.com/Soul/Horoscope/Astrology/Facing_30_and_Freaking_Out.aspx)
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[astrologer50]

You will soon be having T Uranus square natal venus, which can sometimes signify divorce, but as you don't have this aspect natally then it will challenge your venus aspects which is already challenged by square to saturn, making you reserved, affectionally and romantically...


*Upsets and change in your love relationships is the key issue now. A shift in your romantic and sexual energies at this time causes changes in love relationships.
+Your value system may receive a challenge from a new independent streak that wants to break away and try new things. You may not appreciate the urge to upset and change things that is trying to assert itself. This leads to tension
http://cafeastrology.com/uranustransits.html


This transit is about conflict between individuality and freedom and your need for relationships to make life meaningful. Your social situation is likely to change radically at this time. Sometimes the people that you normally associate with will suddenly all move on and you may be surrounded by strangers. It is not unusual to feel "estranged" and have a hard time trying to fit in. If you are involved in a love relationship, it may be an on-again, off-again type of arrangement, where you see each other only infrequently. Stability in relationships is hard to come by.
http://www.astrology-x-files.com/transits/uranus-op-venus.html

[lillith]

Dear Astrologer50, I am really grateful to your help as all these info and websites have been really helpful! May I ask you one last question? Do you think that I should continue to repress my sexual desires and cave in in order to pretend that everything will go back to normal after the saturn return and uranus transits? i do not want to experience an indecent relationship with a married co-worker nor a relationship that would not last long. I do not want to lose what i have (although it is not perfectly meeting my needs). If I continue to control my urges, would the second saturn return hit me more badly? what would you do? would you go for an adventure which is likely to end tragically or would you wait and see? Many thanks again, I cannot express how much I am grateful for your valuable and kind guidance.

[astrologer50]

Dear Astrologer50, I am really grateful to your help as all these info and websites have been really helpful! May I ask you one last question? Do you think that I should continue to repress my sexual desires and cave in in order to pretend that everything will go back to normal after the saturn return and uranus transits? i do not want to experience an indecent relationship with a married co-worker nor a relationship that would not last long. I do not want to lose what i have (although it is not perfectly meeting my needs). If I continue to control my urges, would the second saturn return hit me more badly? what would you do? would you go for an adventure which is likely to end tragically or would you wait and see? Many thanks again, I cannot express how much I am grateful for your valuable and kind guidance.

No one here (let alone me) is going to *tell you what you should do*