Moon In Aries and Mama

[CapSunAriesMoon]

(Please keep this thread pure. I abandoned the other one because it went off on a tangent that was too text-y to keep up with.)

Hi all,

I'd like to hear from Moon in Aries people about their relationships with their parents, mothers particularly. I can't stand my mom and I read somewhere about that being a hallmark of that moon. Thoughts?
I would also like for you guys to look at a chart for a moon in aries girl who might someday be my daughter in law...:rolleyes:.

Her birthdate is 7/28/94 in Brooklyn, NY. Her mother says she cant remember what time she was born and I have the hardest time guessing her Rising. She is a pistol. Small in stature but intense, seeking her ruin but finding it elusive and timid behind a great big mouth and four big sisters. She's not a fighter (I think because of her size) but she has a mouth.Despite all that though I love her much and I think she's going to go far, once she rejects her mom. Sorry, but that's my call.

The mother is content with her poverty and will advise her to get on welfare, move into the projects and go thru a series of baby daddies before she will find a way to pay for her college tuition and a wedding. This is not to say the mom and I don't get along; we are friends but I dont like her ways.

As fas as my son (3/7/94 NY,NY 7:19PM) they argue NONSTOP but somehow always end up sitting next to each other closely or with her carrying his book bag home or his doing her homework. They have a weird relationship but are always somehow together. Her little sister (11/28/95 Brooklyn, NY -Mother can't remember birth time) is a tomboy who my son considers a better friend that her twin. They are very, very, very close and he never makes a secret of the fact that he consders the Sag sister family and will fight for her. She's the one that I should suspect will blossom into a love but something instead points me to the Leo. Any thoughts on this?

[Rubella]

Well,

"I'd like to hear from Moon in Aries people about their relationships with their parents, mothers particularly. I can't stand my mom and I read somewhere about that being a hallmark of that moon. Thoughts?"

My cousin is an Aries moon and she and her mother haven't spoken in years, she hates her a lot. She was awful to her growing up, and drove a wedge between her and her younger sister, always making them compete with one another.

Btw, you and I are opposites. You're a cap sun and an aries moon, and I'm an aries sun with a cap moon.

:-p

[Arian Maverick]

I do not have much time to reply right now, but I definitely wish to respond to this thread. I have an Aries Moon and I have a wonderful relationship with my mother, although we are two very different people...

Arian Maverick

[CapSunAriesMoon]

[quote=Rubella]Well,

"I'd like to hear from Moon in Aries people about their relationships with their parents, mothers particularly. I can't stand my mom and I read somewhere about that being a hallmark of that moon. Thoughts?"

My cousin is an Aries moon and she and her mother haven't spoken in years, she hates her a lot. She was awful to her growing up, and drove a wedge between her and her younger sister, always making them compete with one another.

-Yah, yah. Same here. I was the only one of my mom's kids with a different dad and she raised us like two armed camps. I am not close with anyone in my natal family.

Btw, you and I are opposites. You're a cap sun and an aries moon, and I'm an aries sun with a cap moon.

-So let me see how that translates. I bet if I want you to blow steam thru your ears I should start a sentence with "You absolutely cannot because..." or "Everyone else is _______ so you have to ________" or simply "You have to wait!", :D lol.

[Rubella]

CapSunAriesMoon,

The second choice of sentance would be the best one to go with :-p

[Missa]

Another Aries moon with difficult relationship to mother as well here. I've read about this Aries moon = problems with mother issue too and found it quite interesting. I tried to search for the articles so that I could quote some lines here, but of course didn't manage to find them now that I would have needed them. ;) The descriptions varied from having a mother who throws childish tantrums and behaves in aggressive way, to a mother who has even abandoned the person. Either way, I've read and observed that moon in Aries forces the person to become independent at very early age. That applies to me at least.

[allie_b]

The Aries moon besides mother, can also represent the atmosphere in the home during childhood. One with an Aries moon may have felt the need (or may have been forced, due to circumstances) to be independent and self-sufficient. That's how I see my moon--not as how I saw my mother--but how I, as a child, viewed my homelife.

[Shining Ray]

I haven't got my Moon in Aries but my sister has and her and my mum used to clash all the time and argue. I have my Moon in Pisces I would sympathise and talk to my mum about how she was feeling and we would have really long discussions. My Sister used to get jealous because of the amount of time we spent together.

But now my sister is closer to my mum than I am, they talk to each other on the phone everyday, I speak to my mum about once a week. It is funny how each child in the family can view the same parent from a totally different perspective. My oldest brother has his Moon in Libra but he has got Pluto Conjunct his Moon. My second brother has his Moon in Scorpio.

We all must perceive our parents a certain way but probably the different Astrological energies within us provoke a different reaction/relationship from the parent to each child.

Synastry between your charts as well would probably tell a bit more your relationship with your mum.

Shining Ray

[bellabixler]

I have the moon in Aries as well, and in my case, it describes my mother perfectly. My mother IS an Aries, and she is very independent, self-sufficient, fearless, etc. She is also selfish with her children in that she considers my sisters and I hers and hers ONLY, despite the fact that our fathers (there are two different dads involved) obviously helped to conceive us.

Right now, my mother and I don't speak as much as we used to; she's been stressed out trying to raise my hellion teenage sisters. My boyfriend has actually kind of taken over the role my mother used to occupy in my life (I have a 7th house moon which explains this phenomenon....my boyfriends tend to "take care" of me).

But I feel like I can tell her ANYTHING. And I know that she'll always be there for little ol' Libra me.

[Shining Ray]

Also what I think about when looking at the Moon to represent our mother is how much of our Mother's characteristics belong to us. The Moon is our planet and represents the instinctive emotional reactions which we have. With my Moon in Pisces I have recognised the same patterns in myself which I criticised my mum for. My sister and her Moon in Aries she is just as feisty and independent like my mum.

Shining Ray

[Howl]

I have trouble seeing how my moon relates to my mum. I'm not going to go into too much detail here, because my gemini moon doesn't belong in this particular thread ;) , but I'm just wondering if anyone out there fails to connect their Aries moon with their mum. Or do you just draw a more "lateral thinking" conclusion? Can you somehow learn "Arianess" from your mum, without her seeming to carry Arian traits herself?

Shining Ray, I like your observation, yet am having trouble applying it in practical understanding. My poor mother has four different moons to "represent"! She's got to manifest gemini, pisces, saggie and scorpio all at the same time to different children, while being a taurean woman with an aquarian moon....never have five children, far too much moon work :D

[Shining Ray]

My observation on this is that I do believe each child has a different relationship with the parent. Like in my mum's case she was battered by her mum (my mum has Moon in Cancer square Mars) and her other sister was spoiled rotten and given everything she wanted and told she was the favourite.

My partner's father used to beat him and another brother but the other siblings were treated nicely and used to be his favourites. This is all from the same parent who seems to relate to each child differently.

Talking about my family again as I have said my Mum and sister used to fight but she was the most spoilt in the family and got what she wanted. I always had to try and keep things calm by talking with my mum and trying to support her.

I do think in some families the children are treated different from each other. Ideally we should all be treated the same and loved for who we are but sadly this doesn't happen in some families and it must be pretty painful if you are treated badly and unloved while another sibling is well looked after and loved.

Shining Ray

[Howl]

Good point, again. I think my confusion stems from the fact that my mother, at least to me, appears equally and fairly loving, supportive and loyal to all five children. I suppose that my mum is loving and supportive in a different way to each child, but the fact that I feel we have such a good relationship doesn't seem to fit with my own rather "detached", airy moon placement (which opposes Uranus). At the moment I just can't "put it together" how all of those moons, including my own, can represent what we each learned from my mum. hmm, something to think about.

[Shining Ray]

I know Howl it is hard to piece together but maybe we should be bringing in other factors which relate to childhood (but don't ask me what they are :rolleyes: ) but maybe in your case Jupiter in 4th and Cancer Ascendant might tell another story. The Ascendant is supposed to be early childhood I think.

I have Virgo Ascendant and my oldest brother/younger sister has this Ascendant too. My other brother has Libra Ascendant. Also I was just thinking not to change the subject (I am going to get told off for changing the subject Howl but your involved so your coming down with me :p ) But relating to fathers we all have a different Sun signs in my family all in different elements.

First brother Capricorn
Second brother Aquarius
Sister Sagittarius
me Pisces

I think this is why we would need to look at all parts of the chart for the relationship with a parent. For example a Moon in Aries might have Venus conjunct the Moon so maybe this might soften the relationship.

Shining Ray

[CapSunAriesMoon]

I have trouble seeing how my moon relates to my mum. I'm not going to go into too much detail here, because my gemini moon doesn't belong in this particular thread ;) , but I'm just wondering if anyone out there fails to connect their Aries moon with their mum. Or do you just draw a more "lateral thinking" conclusion? Can you somehow learn "Arianess" from your mum, without her seeming to carry Arian traits herself?


-I think it's rectified by taking into consideration that individuals relate to each other differently and that different children born at different stages of a parents' life will see different sides of them.
My mother and I were reunited when I was six. She encouraged a fierce independence of me.

Shining Ray, I like your observation, yet am having trouble applying it in practical understanding. My poor mother has four different moons to "represent"! She's got to manifest gemini, pisces, saggie and scorpio all at the same time to different children, while being a taurean woman with an aquarian moon....never have five children, far too much moon work :D

-She has a different psychological realtionship to each of you. Any mom knows that we wear different hats in dealing with each indicidual child of ours.

[Howl]

Thanks again for your thoughts, Ray and CapSunAriesMoon.

Ray, we can go down together ;) co-captains of the sinking ship when we steer the thread too far off course and hit, say, an iceberg? Anyway. I think I, at least, will have to "broaden" the way I interpret my moon and the way it relates to "mother". Funny enough, I can see how my dad inspired "sagittarianess" for me.

CapSunAriesMoon - mum's wearing different hats makes a lot of sense :) I just don't see my mum wearing the "hat" that my moon would appear to describe, for me. My moon is exceptionally airy and uranian, and my experience of mother is exceptionally stable, warm, caring and even overprotective. Could it be that she shows me her "airiest" side, and yet that doesn't appear so "airy" to me?

I've always wondered, does anyone see any connection between being a twin, and having a gemini moon (sign of the twins?). That is a large part of my earliest experiences of the world, from the womb onwards.

Argh I am talking about everything but Aries on the Aries thread again. Feeling exposed :o Apologies to all Arian moons! Don't blame two mutable fiends for being incapable of staying on track! :D Please feel free to boot me (and my partner in crime, Ray...) from the thread!

[Dakota]

Hi everyone - going back to the original question ;) how do Aries moons relate to their mother -- well my experience was complete rejection by my mother, even before birth. I'm the youngest of 6 with a 20 year age span and when my mom found out she was pregnant with me she was not too happy and told my father he would have to take care of me because she wouldn't. I try not to take it personally b/c 6 kids over 20 years is a rough deal. The fact that my Aries moon is conjunct Saturn is a perfect reflection of my lack of nurturing however.

[Dark_Uranian]

1 thing I heard about a person who has Moon in Aries is that person surely has difficulties in a relationship with his/her mother. Ok, maybe they don't fight or argue with each other. But I can say they are not 'emotionally close or distant'.

Yeah, I think it's quite true. True experience, my close buddy. She has Cancer sun sign and Moon in Aries.


Other thing about Moon in Aries person is the mother might probably a dominant or active person.

In my friend's situation, her mother has a total control to her siblings ( and house too! )

[Moulin]

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[Dark_Uranian]

Sorry to hear that Moulin. I wonder how does it feel when someone lost their mother's presence in their life. And what if they have their mother around them, but the mother always torture the children's feelings? ( i think the reason why the mother doing that is because she just want the best for her children)

My close buddy always felt that her mother loves her younger sister and brother much than her. But being as Cancerian, she doesnt show the rebel side of her openly. Now she's pursuing her studies in other country, doing medicine. But her mother still 'torturing' her by putting high expectation and never stop comparing her to other siblings.

[Moulin]

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[Dark_Uranian]

Wow, your father is double Aries. Is it true that male who has Moon in Aries is emotionally cold?


I have a male friend who has this position. He's also Cancerian. But to me he's not like other typical Cancer guy I've found. He's different.

This guy doesnt really show his feelings openly. Sometimes I hate it so much when I found there's no respond or 'expression reply' from him.

It's difficult to read him.

[Moulin]

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[Dark_Uranian]

No wonder... Aries and Aquarius. Supposed to be perfect combination for both of them ;)


The guy with Moon in Aries told me before he had a very hard time during his childhood.

Hmmm... I think I can relate this. Ive read that Moon in Aries person is emotionally independant. Perhaps they have gone thru some difficult time or exprience during in their time ( i think most probably during early time of their life ) which make the reason why they think they don't need to be emotionally dependant to other ppl, they have to stand up by themselves. Even if they have very deep feelings on you, they don't like to show it. They prefer to keep to themselves, they like that way...


Oh, I juz realized something when u mentioned about you father never hug you. My father also never do that to me. I think Aries father is like dat....

[Arian Maverick]

I like what Howl said earlier about a child seeing his or her mother as independent and possessing Arian traits, and how the mother may attempt to teach these traits to the child by example.

I have a natal Aries Moon conjunct my Ascendant, so my mother has had a huge influence upon the development of my personality, much more so than my father has. Interestingly, my natal Sun is also in Aries--as is my natal Ascendant, Mercury, and Venus, but that's somewhat unrelated to this thread.

I would like to possibly expand this thread, yet it seems impossible to provide a complete picture that applies to all individuals who have their natal Moon in Aries; I believe so much of the relationship depends upon the synastry between the mother's natal chart as well as the child's. Even if we stick with just one natal chart, the Moon is the fastest-moving body, so it is constantly chaning degrees and signs, forming various aspects with various planets in a matter of hours, sometimes minutes if two planets are conjunct. If you combine the constant forward motion of the Moon with the constantly changing houses, there are many variables that can determine how an Aries Moon--or a Moon in any other sign--can function in a natal chart. I would also look to the planet that rules the the Midheaven, as well as the house position of this planet and the aspects that it makes to other planets. If this tenth house ruler is retrograde, it will have a different meaning than if the tenth house ruler is direct, and the ruler of any particular sign on the Midheaven can be located in any number of signs and houses. Therefore, I think it is important that we do not oversimply.

Nevertheless, it may be interesting to see if individuals possessing Aries Moons--or the Moon in any other sign--share certain similarities in the ways in which they view their mothers or other significant female role models in their lives.

It is my personal belief that no particular planetary placement causes an individual to have a good or bad relationship with another individual, no matter how difficult the synatry may be between them or to what degree certain planets are afflicted in one's natal chart; neither do I believe it forces an individual to regard his or her mother--or any other significant figure in his or her life--in any particular way. For example, I have my natal Moon in Aries applying towards a tight square with Uranus in Capricorn; the Moon is conjunct my Ascendant and Uranus is conjunct my Midheaven, the cusp of the tenth house which traditionally rules the mother. At first glance, one may draw the conclusion that my mother is erratic, or else I perceive her as being erratic or unpredictable/unconventional in some way, but this is not true in the least.

So in summary, there's often much more energy at play than we realize, and things may not always work out as we expect. Let this be hope to any mother or father who has a child with Moon in Aries; the child's not doomed! :p

Arian Maverick

[Moulin]

I am happy for you to use my chart with my mothers although i'm not sure of her birth time. I'm pretty sure she is Pisces rising though.

[ohcs]

I have an Aries moon too. I used to be closed to my mom but as I grow over 20 we had become more distanced. I find her becoming more passive aggressive. She's dominant in her own passive ways. I communicate with her much less too. Sometimes when I recall the past I see her having much more influence over my choices then I realised, not in a good way..

[Lissa]

Hi everybody,

After spending a long time away from astrology,I finally decided to come back.I need to start off slowly so decided to pick a relatively "easy" (if there really is such a thing when it comes to astrology;) )subject,and this thread seemed perfect to me.My English may be a little stiff,since I haven't practiced for a long,long while,so please forgive me if I make some horrible spelling/grammar mistakes;).

My Moon is5º42'Aries,conjunct Mercury at9º46'Aries in the3rd,trine Jupiter at 3º50'Leo,sextile Saturn at 3º58'Aquarius,square Uranus at13º22'Cap and my 4º12' Cappy Ascendant.I spent most of my life being angry at my mom,until I realised we have more in common than I ever thought.I have always seen her as being an eternal teenager-well,most pf the time,she acts like one.She's kinda lazy(even her admits so),and used to have like 3year old tantrums.My mom has a Leo Moon,so I guess striving to remain always young must be a part of her personality.Yet,I've always thought she went a little bit over the top with the whole "try to stay young" thing.Truth is,my mom is not your typical stay at house mom.I guess it's part of the Aries Moon individual to claim independence from one's mother-when I was young people used to tell me I looked at lot like my mother and I just thought "Oh my God,I don't want to look my mom,I CAN'T look like her",and did everything I could to look more like my father,which is someone I do admire deep down because of his easygoing,generous approach to life.

My relationship with my mom changed in December,when I saw an other side of her I didn't know about.And what I saw made me admire her so much-deep down,she is very strong willed and,even though she gets angered really easily and acts like a teenager sometimes,she has a strong character and is very resilient.Still,there are times when my mom acts like a child and I have to mother her-which is OK with me because my Pisces Sun enjoys mothering people:D.I personally believe that Aries Moon people have mothers who keep,within their hearts,a neverending desire to stay forever young,and sometimes these mothers will look at their child and think "Hey,I just wish I could be him/her...".But,deep down,they do have a strong sense of autorithy and they're never afraid to tell you who's boss-which is always good because well,isn't it what mothers are made for?;)

[deanna]

My sons father has moon in Aries and he is not respectful towards his mother. I don't think he respects women in general. I have done more and cared more for his mom than he has. She broke her hip once and while she was laying on the floor he yelled at her.

-de

[LoneStar]

My youngest brother has his Moon in Aries and I've just only recently started to ponder over what this might mean. He was born when I was 14, and the few years before his birth was pure **** in our family. It was a time period that corresponded with my awful adolescence and a whole slew of my fathers undealt with issues coming to a head at once. It was ugly. Our home was a battlefield, that is, until my mom got pregnant.

Once she got pregnant, my dad and I both "grew up," stopped fighting, and got our act together because my mom was pregnant and we knew better than to trouble her. So I can see the Aries moon making "sense" before he was born, but then after he was born, of course, the entire dynamic of our family changed from outright war to this great nurturing softness that was centered around "the baby." His Cancer Sun, triggered my 5H Cancer Jupiter/Gemini Moon conjunction, and also fit right in with my moms 7H Cancer Moon. It was so awesome when he arrived because the war just ended. He was absolutely adored, constantly attended to, and never really had any problems other than the fact that he wouldn't stay with a sitter because because he was so clingy to our nuclear family. If anything, he was overnurtured... with two older siblings and two loving parents, always at his call.

I have Aries Sun, but am the only other one in the family with an Aries placement. I am 14 years older than he is and recently started to wonder about how he perceived me growing up? My role with him has always felt confusing because I often found myself wanting to care and nurture him like a mother would, but he is clearly my mothers child. I loved him and supported him in a way that was far more than "sisterly" but less than "motherly." He didn't see any fighting in his life, and he is such a mellow and loveable and creative person, so his Aries Moon doesn't quite make sense, except for his prenatal period. Unless I played a bigger role for him than I give myself credit for.

[Moulin]

Great post Lonestar :)

sorry everyone that l had to delete my posts :(

[Dark_Uranian]

" My sons father has moon in Aries and he is not respectful towards his mother. I don't think he respects women in general. I have done more and cared more for his mom than he has. She broke her hip once and while she was laying on the floor he yelled at her "



Deanna, I think I agree wif u... Especially on I don't think he respects women in general.

[memento mori]

one of my best friends has arian moon. he's never been attached to his mother, unlike his older brother. he's currently refusing contact with her because of some circumstances in her divorce. he's hardly respectful to women he's with though he does care greatly about my girly friendship and respects me so i cant say that he doesnt respect women in general.

[Moulin]

Agree too.

Aries moon men are so disrespectful to the point where it sickens me, like in this example.

I think Aries moon women are totally different (but then i'm biased) :P


" My sons father has moon in Aries and he is not respectful towards his mother. I don't think he respects women in general. I have done more and cared more for his mom than he has. She broke her hip once and while she was laying on the floor he yelled at her "



Deanna, I think I agree wif u... Especially on I don't think he respects women in general.

[VenusInAries]

I live with my boyfriend who has moon in aries and my mother had moon in aries..my mother didn't raise me much but what I saw between her and her mother is that she loved her but they always fought and she felt like she never made her mother happy.

My boyfriend is very close to his mother but to an obnxious point.. but he has pluto oppose that moon so don't know. Where I notice his moon coming out is sometimes he has a hard time articulating his feelings so he goes to work out.. I look at it as aries putting his body into action to work out the feelings..then afterwards he has an easier time talking about them.. plus when he gets passionate about something or someone hurts his feelings..stand back..

But his mom..no they are tight..my mom was close to her mom but they argued all the time. Hope that helps.

Oh I should add he was abandoned by his mom when he was young, but they are close now..my mom was abandoned as well when she was young but are close now..not sure if that has anything to do with the independent aries nature and nurturing of the moon.

[sallyd]

i have moon in aries.

i had what i think was an ok relationship with my mum when i was younger, though as she got older and more - well basically old and mad - i found her pretty hard to deal with and we yelled at each other a fair bit.

i put our irritation with each other down to us both being tauruses though - and my daughter is a taurus too, so history could repeat itself. my daughter doesn't have moon in aries tho (it's gemini - heaven help me!)

[CapSunAriesMoon]

I have the moon in Aries as well, and in my case, it describes my mother perfectly. My mother IS an Aries, and she is very independent, self-sufficient, fearless, etc. She is also selfish with her children in that she considers my sisters and I hers and hers ONLY, despite the fact that our fathers (there are two different dads involved) obviously helped to conceive us.


Uggh. I remember my mother pulling that "I'm your mother and your father" garbage after running my father off. What makes some women think kids want to hear that.

My boyfriend has actually kind of taken over the role my mother used to occupy in my life (I have a 7th house moon which explains this phenomenon....my boyfriends tend to "take care" of me).

I have the moon in Aries in the seventh house too and when my husband and I are on the outs our relationship is like mine and my mother's. It doesn't manifest as him taking care of me; more of me having to understand why he can't love me the way I want to be loved or why I have to settle for this or that and not demand more of him:(.

[CapSunAriesMoon]

Wow, your father is double Aries. Is it true that male who has Moon in Aries is emotionally cold?


I have a male friend who has this position. He's also Cancerian. But to me he's not like other typical Cancer guy I've found. He's different.

This guy doesnt really show his feelings openly. Sometimes I hate it so much when I found there's no respond or 'expression reply' from him.

It's difficult to read him.

I can only imagine how hard it must be to synthesize Cancerian touchy-feely mushiness with the cold independence of Aries. Poor him. I relate it to the moon in aries that it's very hard for me to see things in emotional terms. For example- the single thing I hate the most is an apology. If you do something to me, undo it or get out of my life. I absolutely hate for someone to tell me how sorry they are when the consequences of whatever they did are still material. Also, it makes me sick to my stomach to do "scenes" , good or bad. I find mushy sentimentalism uncomfortable and embarrassing.

[MichelleStar]

Interesting, but I think it's to overally simplistic. I have an Aries moon, and my mother has a Scorpion moon, and we get along perfectly.

[rishi]

no moon in aries wont create any type of problems..

[flea]

The two friends I know who have moon in aries have close relationshipshuips with their mother... their is a sense of powerplay that I have picked up, but also a strong love. They are not wishywashy relationships very definite feelings are given and received.

I think Angelina Jolie has an aries moon and she seemed to have a very close relationship with her mum.

Love Light Flea

[sbueno]

Moon in Aries, Virgo sun, mars in Pisces here. I often feel that my mother is dynamic, overwhelming and critical. As an only child, I ended up absorbing all of her anger--there were no siblings to share this with!

Our relationship is problematic and strained. At 45, I realized I would never live up to her expectations regardless of what I accomplished. I am never candid with my mother and politely ignore most of what she tells me at this point. We rarely argue anymore because I agree to disagree, so let most comments pass without argument. I do love my mother and appreciate her hard work but feel that the relationship between the two of us will never be close or warm.