what attitude would be good to cultivate to bring love in my life again

[gemini59]

I have been in a serious funk since my partner and I parted ways last september. I must admit each day gets a little better accept I find myself going to this place of anger, suspicion, jealousy of everyone. It is a plutonian flash and I am afraid in one of those moments I will say something to him I will regret later in my life.
I want to be able to move on with my life and maybe meet someone new but I don't know where to start and feel afraid of being hurt again.

I have not been able to be attracted to any men yet. I can not look at a man with out suspicion, fear and insecurity.

I see that a development of a different attitude would be a weapon against my volatile emotions and fear but I don't know what attitude to develop.

What attitude would be good to cultivate to bring love in my life again?

I pulled up this chart.

Well bad news is all fixed signs on the angles. This is not a portend of change.

Mars rules the first and is visible in the 10th. It is strong in its own face and term. It is in the suns house. The sun is in mars face..I am not sure what this means.

The sun rules the 10th house. The 10th is the 4th from the 7th thus the end of the matter of partnerships and relationships. The sun is very weak and peregrine.

Mars is two degrees from the cusp of this house. Mars in a way is thinking of self and the end of relationships...would that be correct?

Now moon rules 9th house of philosophy and dreams and visions. I thought about using this as attitude is a development of an inner philosophy on a more practical level.
The moon is in the fourth house of the end of the matter.

The moon is in mutual reception and applying trine to venus and the ascendant so I think this is a good sign that 'astrology' is trying to tell me something :cool:

Moon, ruler of my 9th, is separating from a challenging aspect to the sun in the 7th and moves to trine the peregrine venus. With mutual reception there is a way out. Venus rules 7th and 12th of self-undoing.

Venus is close to the cusp of the 9th in cancer...nurturing?
Okay this is where I am kind of getting lost. :sick:

I can not seem to pull this together after this. :sideways:

Any one with two cents to throw in?

I am not even sure I can ask this kind of horary but Dr. Farr gave me notion that I can by some of the things I read. Can I Dr. Farr?

I do feel like I need some way out of my emotional issue.

[Spicadilly]

Gemini, my understanding is that horary works best at yes/no questions/answers but maybe Dr Farr has other experience so I'll be watching.

[gemini59]

I know ...I thought the same thing but it seems it can be used in a different way so hopefully I will not go quietly in to this good night:)

[dr. farr]

An advice-request:
Answers are to be found at Ascendant, place of Lord of Ascendant, 7th house, 5th house (why: ascendant = advice for your personality; 7th advice for relationships; 5th advice for happy affairs, romance, and related)

-Ascendant = Scorpio: advice: read up on + Scorpio qualities and traits, and try to develop these (this = the fundamental advice given in response to your question)
-Mars in Leo: an aggressive (Mars) yet upbeat, generous and warm (Leo) attitude and approach to potential relationships must be developed and activated on your part; Part of Fortune also there in Leo, promising definite beneficial results if this advice is put into action (notice Leo, Mars and Part of Fortune all up in the 10th house!)
-7th house: Taurus with Mercury in it; a non-idealistic, down to earth, nitty-gritty attitude regarding potential relationships must be developed; Mercury here shows that you must be more communicative in your relationships, and (as with the Mars indication mentioned earlier) you must be positive, direct and open and TAKE THE INITIATIVE in relationships, rather than be quiet or passive and letting things happen to you.
-5th house: read about the + qualities and actions of Pisces and Jupiter, and add these to the + Scorpio qualities, traits and actions (from the ascendant); this activated combination will assure the benefits of all 5th house related matters regarding your potential relationships.

Chart also suggests best times to take actions, make efforts and contacts, arrange meetings, etc regarding these issues:

Days: Tuesdays, Fridays, Sundays lead (Mars-as ruler of ascendant; Venus-as ruler of Taurus and dispositor of Mercury; Sun-as ruler of Leo, dispositor of Mars)
.......: Thursdays secondarily (Jupiter-ruler of Pisces, dispositor of Moon; 5th house)

Moon Signs:
-prime Moon signs for action: Moon passing through Scorpio (ascendant) and Leo (place of lord of ascendant)
-secondary Moon signs for action: Moon passing through Taurus (7th house) and Pisces (5th house)
-inauspicious Moon sign (avoid any important actions regarding love and romance during passage of Moon through) =Aquarius (Saturn negative, blocking potential), also because Aquarius is opposition by sign vs Lord of ascendant (Mars) in Leo, as well as opposing (by sign) the Part of Fortune, also in Leo in the 10th (whole sign) house.

The above is, in my opinion, the gist or basic message of this advice-request horary; as you can see, these are delineated differently than regular horary questions.

[Spicadilly]

Interesting deliniation Dr.

If we were to look at chart with an event then Moon will trine Venus DC ruler, Gem you could meet someone, could be a communication from work as Moon rules his 3rd and in his 10th. Last aspect to the Moon cj Jupiter opp Saturn, your confidence could swing?

[gemini59]

Dr. Farr, wow, this is so cool! Yet another aspect of astrology to learn:)
So it is read sort of like an event and not exactly like a horary. Excellent
I clearly thought so different. I would not have even considered to develop Scorpion qualities. Hmmm..

Scorpio, transformation, regeneration, deep devotion, magnetism, self-containment, healing power, probing, emotional intensity, secretiveness.
Loads to learn...thanks and interesting.
Spicadilly, it is interesting as I am not sure what the moon implies in this chart but this idea of an increase in confidence it a nice thought. Venus and jupiter are in mutual reception.

It is odd as the chart to me seems like two different energies one mars fire and the other water....almost contradiction. When I see it through my eyes I see the conflicting energy of thinking I need to be more passive, healing, fear to the anger I feel too. So I will be rereading this a hundred times:)