Will Putting Space Between Us Bring Us Back Together

[angelina]

I asked if giving him space---or me putting distance/space between us would help to bring us back together again (or will it just make things worse?). I would love to hear what you see. I am Venus he is Mars. I have alread begun to separate out, but the Moon is approaching him. He is away right now I have not been emailing or calling.


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[Summery Joy]

I'm assuming that you are not married to the quesited, so I used the 5th house, not the 7th. Looking at the chart that way, I really don't think that yours is such a good idea.

You are signified by Venus in Cancer in the 9th house. I don't know what the 9th house means here. Maybe it's shows your current interest in a "distance". It is essentially peregrine and in the fall of Saturn.

He is signified by Saturn (ruler of the 5th: romance) in Leo in the radix 10th (his turned 6th). Saturn has essential and accidental debilities and is received by venus by term.

Venus and Saturn do not behold one another by application nor collection or translation of light. This is a no answer to your question. The last lunar aspect is a square with Pluto Rx in the 3rd house; this idea of yours could badly hurt the channels of communications between you two, not the other way around.

So the answer is no, that's a bad idea.

Other than the answer, I'd like to share some comments with you. First of all, your significator (Venus) receives his (Saturn) only by term. This shows some interest in him, but doesn't show that you're crazy about him or anything. Also, Venus is peregrine; you don't have much power to alter the current situation. There isn't much that you may do that will matter. This is shown more by the status of his signficator in both essential and accidental debility. It seems that whatever the problem is, it's from within him. It doesn't have much to do with you. His significator, however, anti-receives yours. It's not that he doesn't like you, but he just feels that he cannot be with you for some reason or another. His dispositor, the Sun, applies to him by a wide conjunction. Is it possible that some other woman is also interested in him?

[angelina]

Thanks alot sorehearted. Yes I created space two weeks ago and no it does not seem to be helping (laugh).

Does it change if he is eleventh house ruled by Leo (Sun) as he is not a lover but a very close friend. It's not a fling or anything like that. It still looks like a no!

PS -you are right I am not crazy about him but I do care for him and I think he cares for me.

[Summery Joy]

You know,the funny thing is that after I wrote this reply I said to myself "what if this was a friend, not a lover?". But I couldn't bring myself to erasing all of what I had written and asking what he was to you. I figured I'd see if I was lucky enough to had guessed it right the first time. Turns out, I wasn't! That's a lesson for me :)

Well, forgive me for not having time to answer in similar detail this time, but yes, you have guessed correctly. It's still a bad idea, especially with his significator (Sun) applying to Jupiter in the 1st house (you) by a square (tension) with no reception (feelinsg/forgiveness/etc).

And thinking about it without horaries, Angelina; cutting off channels of communication to re-establish channels of communication? I don't see how that could work. And if you are only just friends, why am I sensing some ego conflict? Maybe I'm sensing incorrectly.

[angelina]

I say friends because we have never had sex together or been dating. I thought he needn't space from me because he seemed skittish lately and kind of detached. I guess the ego part is me feeling bruised by that detachment and pulling back in return.

Regardless you are right and now I regret the space. So I wrote him last night. I'll wait and see if he responds.

[Summery Joy]

Good luck :) I feel for you. I hate it when friendship slips away like that.