kate0406
06-25-2006, 12:41 PM
Hello folks, here's a good one...
Just wondered if anyone out there in the world had experience of this or any particular insights?
For years now (since childhood) I always seem to find myself involved with a trio of friends where something is played out on a symbolic/psychological level e.g. betrayal/general fall out, where the patterns/dynamics of the relationships are always the same. For example, I am always drawn socially to one friend than the other while the relationship with the other is a little more awkward and detached or she doesn't seem to like me as much...
Or - I am the one that's left out while the other two get along better.
There is alot more to these relationships but haven't got time to record everything! Through my research and introspection of this I have come to realise that these trios are a projection of aspects of me that perhaps I find hard to integrate within my persoanlity - aspects of my shadow? In turn this originates from unfinshed business with the parents or one of the parents. In my case I had quite an abusive childhood where I was over attached to my mother and not father who I didn't really 'know' and was a bully.
I have learnt that these situations will always repeat themselves until the aspects are integrated or lessons learned.... even recently at college I ended up forming a close friendship with two girls - one who I was quite close to and now that I have a teaching job, I know I am going to be part of a planning team of 3 including me so I know this is going to repeat itself......
It really is very interesting seeing parts of yourself played out continually but is something I wish I could fathom out fully (my pluto helps). A Liz Greene article on astrodienst on the eternal triangle really helped me to understand the dynamics astrologically and psychologically.
Usually I have learnt that when I try and steer clear of this kind of relationship and try not to be attached and needy but more self-sufficient and confident I am 'rewarded' in some way by the universe and am shown that this triangle is in some way spirtually unhealthy.....God it gets confusing being your own therapist!
Anyways what do you all think? Do you have any similar experience?- this trio dynamic can also apply to love relationships/family/pets (coming inbetween a couple)even! Would be interested to hear your thoughts, also an astrological perspective maybe interesting.......
Cheers!
Kate (birth data : 4 June 1976, 14.30, Hull, England)
Just wondered if anyone out there in the world had experience of this or any particular insights?
For years now (since childhood) I always seem to find myself involved with a trio of friends where something is played out on a symbolic/psychological level e.g. betrayal/general fall out, where the patterns/dynamics of the relationships are always the same. For example, I am always drawn socially to one friend than the other while the relationship with the other is a little more awkward and detached or she doesn't seem to like me as much...
Or - I am the one that's left out while the other two get along better.
There is alot more to these relationships but haven't got time to record everything! Through my research and introspection of this I have come to realise that these trios are a projection of aspects of me that perhaps I find hard to integrate within my persoanlity - aspects of my shadow? In turn this originates from unfinshed business with the parents or one of the parents. In my case I had quite an abusive childhood where I was over attached to my mother and not father who I didn't really 'know' and was a bully.
I have learnt that these situations will always repeat themselves until the aspects are integrated or lessons learned.... even recently at college I ended up forming a close friendship with two girls - one who I was quite close to and now that I have a teaching job, I know I am going to be part of a planning team of 3 including me so I know this is going to repeat itself......
It really is very interesting seeing parts of yourself played out continually but is something I wish I could fathom out fully (my pluto helps). A Liz Greene article on astrodienst on the eternal triangle really helped me to understand the dynamics astrologically and psychologically.
Usually I have learnt that when I try and steer clear of this kind of relationship and try not to be attached and needy but more self-sufficient and confident I am 'rewarded' in some way by the universe and am shown that this triangle is in some way spirtually unhealthy.....God it gets confusing being your own therapist!
Anyways what do you all think? Do you have any similar experience?- this trio dynamic can also apply to love relationships/family/pets (coming inbetween a couple)even! Would be interested to hear your thoughts, also an astrological perspective maybe interesting.......
Cheers!
Kate (birth data : 4 June 1976, 14.30, Hull, England)