recurrent theme

[mayin]

question about a particular recurrent pattern of my relationships

[katydid]

I think that the pattern you are speaking of can be found in your 7th house. You have capricorn on the cusp, so you might attract responsible, duty oriented partners. And Saturn, which rules that 7th, is in Libra, and conjunct Mars and Pluto. So that describes some baggage in the relationship arena that these potential partners come with. That libra triple conjunction squares your Venus from the 4th to the 7th as well. So it presents a challenge to you, but you do need to own that challenge. If you just dump every potential partner who comes with relationship baggage you will have few options/
This is a test that you have, not just them.
Your venus in the 7th in Cap is attracted to men who have values and ambition and are highly ethical. Men like this tend to have committed relationships, and they do not easily
end such relationships. So it will continue to be an ongoing pattern imo.
I think that you are overly sensitive to the situation because of your moms situation. Maybe you can look to your venus trine to chiron in the 11th to help you open up your definitions and circumstances a bit more, and find some leeway for your hopes. wishes and dreams, that will more easily allow you to open up to future happiness.

The squares to your 7th house Venus from the 4th house triple conjunction of the malefics is a difficult one. It is like a warning light that begins blinking in your subconscious as soon as you begin to feel attracted to someone. The mars/saturn/pluto bring up hidden fears and pain from the past like a red flag waving in the wind. It may be that you need to be more clear or honest with yourself about what you do really want from a partner.
Perhaps you want those same things that your boyfriends exes wanted, but you do not know how to ask for that, or trust yourself to ask for that kind of thing. Your moms situation made the whole thing unclear or unattainable for you in your mind perhaps. But you need to know how to work through these issues so you can enter more fully in your future relationships.

[ian wood]

your mars in the 4th house with saturn and pluto indicates that it was a struggle for your mother it also indicates you will be attracted to men who will victimise you in some way the men who wont you will feel no special chemistry with. A s you are very passionate that is difficult .The transit of n node over venus gives you great desire to be in relationship at the moment

[ian wood]

you also have s node in the 7th house indicating search for a soul mate who you knew from past life as the transitting n node moves towards that point the desire for this to manifest will get stronger

[Caro]

Hi mayin
I have a theme of meeting guys who have very damaged relationships with their mother. really serious stuff, emotional and physical abuse.

I have recognised this a few years ago but yet still the next person I met had a mum who walked out on him when he was two( this was so painful he did not tell me for some time). I have lots of planets in 4th house(Sun in aqua, moon in pisces and mercury in pisces) and also a taurus north node in 7th house. I have a tendancy to want to fix people and support them emotionally.

however I realise that they can not get over their mother issues by my help they have to do this themselves. so all relationships have ended.

now I have been alone for some time - most recently I have been attracted to someone who has a very good relationship with his mom. so maybe I have turned a corner