Scorpio sun, scorpio rising, aquarius moon

[lainypops]

Hi all,

I was wondering if anyone can shed some light as to why I am so very bad at relationships. Once there's a sign that the guy is developing feelings for me, I can't help but feel an over powering urge to run for the hills. Is there any hope for me?? Thanks for any help!

My chart is attached

[Tamara]

Oh i've got the same desire in this cases. I'm leo sun, scorpio ascendan and moon in scorpio. The reason of it i see in the fifth house which shows how we receive love from other. We both have fifth house in pisces.

[astrologer50]

Hi all,

I was wondering if anyone can shed some light as to why I am so very bad at relationships. Once there's a sign that the guy is developing feelings for me, I can't help but feel an over powering urge to run for the hills. Is there any hope for me?? Thanks for any help!

My chart is attached

The forum rules do ask you to give first your own interpretations as to what you think may be responsible for this happening.

My first impression would be venus conj Uranus in first house:D

[rogue_red]

If we look at venus in your chart we get alot of clues as to whats going on.
Venus is the ruler of your 7th and 12th houses and venus' dispositor is pluto in 12th. This can indicate an intense or irrational fear regarding confinement in relationships. Astrologer50 is quite correct when she mentions venus conjunct uranus. This conjunct forms a blended energy that leaves the native with a tendency to suddenly change direction with your affections and those you love or are attracted to. Also moon in 3rd in aquarius requires much room to breath and are comfortable with detatchment. In fact closeness would be downright stifling. Your best bet would be to be open and honest with people about the type of relationship you want or if you even want one at all. With so much water in your chart having another person put their emotional load on you is just unconcievably difficult. Its like you already have your arms full with your own intensity that taking on the emotional commitment of another is terrifying. With venus in scorpio ruled by pluto in 12th trust will not come easy and there may be an underlying fear of being hurt that keeps you from staying put. This is especially evident with your chiron wound in 7th. Mars in leo squares venus in scorpio so want you desire and what your drive tells you is at odds. Mars in leo is driven for fun, creativity, the advancement of self but is lazy and prefers for someone else to do the hard work. Scorpio venus, sun and mercury need intensity and connection. Scorpio wants to do everything with intensity but because such intensity leaves them vulnerable they need to trust first and thats too much work for leo mars. Try to discover the truth behind your reaction, try and discover what it is exactly that you are reacting to and you will invariably find the solution.:)

[R4VEN]

Astrologer50 is quite correct when she mentions venus conjunct uranus. This conjunct forms a blended energy that leaves the native with a tendency to suddenly change direction with your affections and those you love or are attracted to. Also moon in 3rd in aquarius requires much room to breath and are comfortable with detatchment. In fact closeness would be downright stifling. Your best bet would be to be open and honest with people about the type of relationship you want or if you even want one at all. With so much water in your chart having another person put their emotional load on you is just unconcievably difficult.
I agree totally with what both rogue_red and Astrologer50 observe re Venus conjunct Uranus. Both myself and one of my sons have this, and we both react in a similar way to the prospect of a relationship. I run and hide, cos I know to even go there is a waste of time and energy - emotional sponges see me coming a mile away!! My son fantasizes about being in a relationship, then he sets the r/ship up so that he has a quick `out'. He tends to attract women who are perennially unfaithful, so he always has his way out, and he maintains some sort of higher moral ground as well - so he thinks!

As rogue says, one has to live within the `shape' of this conjunction, and so to be upfront about the sort of relationship you can provide is a good start. That way, hopefully no-one gets hurt.

[Catatonia]

Dear lainy,

You wouldn't believe what attracted me to click on your thread. When I saw some familiar placements, I came in to see what it was--and lo and behold--you were born the same exact day that my ex was born.

If I may take a moment to offer some non-astrological clues in combination with some astro pointers, I'd like to say that you've really got to look at the big picture here. Most of our present day habits stem from pretty bad childhoods. That's really not a joke. Some people were never paid attention to, so they constantly end up feeling abandoned and are afraid of being alone. Some people are so used to feeling neglected that they, themselves, ignore others in an attempt to detach their emotions from any potential pain (this would be you). I'd say just about 100% of cases revolve around some form of control, whether that is emotional, physical, or mental.

Here are some things I strongly suggest for you to look up:

- Commitment-phobia
- Passive Aggressive behavior
- Signs of emotional abuse
EDIT: Also look up Emotionally Unavailability (Emotionally Unavailable People)

Here are some tips: Just because you feel this way, your partner doesn't. Projection in these situations is a huge factor. You project your attachment conflicts (Moon-Mars opposition) on your partner, who is likely to be just as emotionally unavailable as you but also resemble someone slightly opposite you (somebody a little more commited, emotional -- Sun conjunct Mercury Venus conjunct Uranus).

And I saved the best for last: Remember to take this VERY seriously. Internal conflicts take lots of time, effort, and frustration to correct. Any person has the capability to change, but most don't acknowledge that there's a problem. Make sure you're not one of them, starting today, make your relationships count! If you conquer your fears and take the time to voice your concerns to a counseller, you will be on your way to a happy, healthy life. (Counselling is a wonderful method to get genuine feedback on problems.)

Catatonia

[lainypops]

Thank you all so much for your responses. I'm a total n00b when it comes to astrology beyond our sun signs. However, with your help, I have significantly increased my knowledge over the last few days.
Amongst others, learning about Chiron in the 7th was of great interest and makes quiet alot of sense as does Venus conjunct Uranus.
The thing is, in my heart and soul, I do want to have a close relationship but the amount of barriers to break down does make it seem like the impossible dream.
Just out of curiosity, from my chart would there be any particular that I could focus on that that may give me an idea of the kind of partner who would be best suited to me?

[lainypops]

Thanks Catatonia!! I really appreciate your efforts. I'm sure you know all too well what it's like to deal with my kind of issues!! Poor you! :o

I will certainly endeavor to look into the subjects you mentioned. I just wonder how hard wired our emotional responses are. Am I right in assuming that our natal chart just gives an indication of the kind of issues we will struggle with thoughout our lives and that it's in no way a foregone conclusion? I'm kind of feeling like a lost cause at the moment.