Need Your Help Again

[sita]

Hey y'all.

Major transitions and karma and craziness here. Life is W-I-L-D and thing feel like things just jumped an octave, did a 180, turned upside down, dove, flipped and I'm waiting to see where the rest may land and I'm supposed to be making the huge decisions before I have the info. Fun.

I need a synastry looked at, if anyone can.

Is it totally ridiculous to think that anything could come out of this connection? I think I fell in love, but yet the situation is not right and I have to make big choices fast.

Thanks.

Taking deep breaths. Very deep breaths.

Sita

[Arian Maverick]

Sita, I have uploaded the synastry chart here so you and the other forum members may access it more easily...

http://img87.imageshack.us/img87/676/sitanicksynastrychart2xm.png (http://imageshack.us)

I do not know the details of your situations, but I wish you the best in your journey--wherever it may take you.

Arian Maverick

[wilsontc]

Sita,

First of all, I agree with you: take deep breaths. Since you seem to be concerned about this relationship, most likely you already know anything that anyone here can tell you...since YOU are IN the relationship and so have the most direct experience. However, for your review, here is the situation:

In doing relationship comparisons, the first step is to understand how each person approaches relationships. This can be seen by looking for Libra, Venus, and the 7th house (all are about relationships) in each chart. In your chart, you have Libra modifying Pluto (transformation, also control) and North node (future goals). The North node indicates that relationships help you achieve your goals in life. Pluto energy indicates that either YOU take control of your relationships, or others could use your relationships to control YOU. Pluto power WILL be expressed, one way or the other.

You have Venus opposite (energy is over-excited by) Uranus (friends, also rebellion). This indicates you like relationships to be "close but not TOO close"...it also indicates you could impulsively have relationships and, just as impulsively decide to get out of relationships.

However, you have Saturn (duty, also structure) focused in the 7th house, indicating you focus on relationships and want structure in them. This creates a conflict between "impulsive" relationships and structured relationships.

Your friend also has Libra modifying North node (future goals). He has Virgo modifying Venus (Venus in the sign of its fall - challenging energy) focused in the 1rst house (being, also action - Venus in the house of its detriment - challenging energy). People with Venus in the first house may tend to want to "conquer" in relationships: get the relationship and then, afterwards, move onto another relationship. Your friend has no energy focused in the 7th house, indicating he does not have relationships for the sake of having relationships.

The next thing to look at is the relationship chart (your chart is in the middle and his is on the outside). The first thing to look for in relationship charts is any connections between the Sun and Moon by themselves. Your Sun and Moon are connected, indicating there is a "connection" between you. The next thing to look for are the aspects made between Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, and Mars (also called "personal" planets). The thing which stands out is that there are NO connections betweeen your personal planets and his Venus (relationships), indicating he may not "connect in" to relationships with you. Looking at the other planets, you have Uranus square (energy needs to be combined with) Venus, indicating you might have gotten into this relationship impulsively, and your Uranuses are square each other, indicating you might rebel against each other in some way. Your Pluto conjuncts his North node, indicating that you could help him with his future goals. Most dramatic in the chart synnastry is that almost all your planets are focused in his 7th house (relationships) while none of his planets are focused in his 7th house. This reinforces the possibility that, while you INTENSELY feel the relationship with him, he does not feel the relationship with you.

All these issues can be worked out between you, if BOTH people want to talk about the issues and work out the differences TOGETHER. And this is where astrological synastry gives way to human interaction.

Charting,

Tim

[C Jayne]

Sita--

You see something in this guy, but part of what you see is that he's a stranger -- one who is probably pretty sexy.

He's got all these sexy stuff -- Mars and Venus conjunct Pluto and Midheaven in Taurus (conjunct your Taurus Venus) -- and beneath that firy exterior, he is so watery -- which is so different from you.

He's headstrong (Mercury / Uranus conjunct) and you have something in common -- both have Moon/ Jupiter conjunct -- probably travel or higher learning or some kind of adventurous thing like that.

he's dragging you into feeling you have to make a decision, because he's so intense (Scorpio type energies). he's got you hypnotized, and there is some kind of fascination (his Unranus, your Moon Jupiter) there, although I don't know if it's his or yours. And with your Ascendants opposing, you feel sort of as if you've come around a corner and are suddenly face to face with a mirror -- ! ! -- shock!

Your Mercuries are both in fire signs, so you could talk your way through difficulties, which is important, but I say, don't let anybody rush you into a decision this fast.

This is not an in-depth discussion, mind you, but that's my take on it. What happened to Alaska? Ask yourself, am I just looking for some excitement, and a good way to get out of this relationship I've been in?

- CJ